Five Minute Friday — Rush

Ready for this week’s Five Minute Friday adventure?

I know it’s being posted just after midnight Saturday, but the exercise was actually tackled Friday. But I had an anniversary message to attend to and I don’t like more than one post per day. I also knew I would be on the road Saturday, so writing it in Friday and holding it until the wee hours of Saturday seemed like a reasonable compromise.

Five Minute Friday is, of course, and exercise where about 100 of us in the FMF community come together to independently write on a one-word prompt — this week RUSH — post it, link it at  http://www.fiveminutefriday.com then gather round to encourage and support our fellow Christian writers, each writing in their own unique style and genrs.

I’ve also been including snippets from Five Minute Friday: A Collection of Stories Written in Five Minutes Flat. They are a testament to the value of the exercise. This week, I’ll share some perspective from Cheryl, who I hope inspires you to check us out or, better yet, encourage you to try your hand at focused, unscripted writing for just five minutes. And share it on the website.

“FMF has been a source of encouragement for me. I have looked forward to Thursday nights and finding out the word for the day. [It’s released on the Five Minute Friday website and at a special #fmfparty Twitter party.] Once I have the word, I mull it iver thinking about what I could possibly write. More often than not, the word has been a per3spective changer giving me a chance to think bigger abut life and my current circumstances. Not only have I been encouraged by the words of the many other FMF writers as they comment on my writing. FMF is not just about linking my posts but about being part of something much bigger.”

Well, it time to start the timer, so let’s GO …

What’s your rush?

As we wander down the path of life, we often travel at breakneck speed. Everyone seems to be in a rush. We don’t take the time to stop and smell the roses — or talk to our neighbors — or just take time for ourselves. It’s go, go, go.

Rushing isn’t going to get us at our destination any faster. In fact, often rushing makes us later because we miss cues along the way.

Our daily lives need movement. We can’t stand still. But we don’t have to rush things. Everything has an appointed time and all is received in due time. I have an Expert’s word for it.

So again, I ask, what’s your rush?

And I answer, stop and smell the roses — take time to talk to your neighbors — take time for yourself.

When you look back, times rushes by faster than you think. At some point, all you will have is the memories. It would be a shame if you missed out on them because you rushed by them.

What’s your rush? … STOP

THOUGHT TO REMEMBER: You’re God’s favorite.

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Anniversary Dreams

Almost to the moment, 50 years ago I gazed down the cavernous St. John the Baptist Cathedral aisle in Paterson, NJ, and watched a vision glide toward me. Forty years and 27 days later, I gazed down at a battered and bruised woman and watched her embark on her journey into eternity.

I’ve been pondering how I would deal with this anniversary — what would have been our 50th, our golden. While I celebrate the 40 years we had together, I am saddened by the almost 10 years I’ve had to navigate without Karen at my side. It’s been oh so bittersweet these past few months. I can’t help but reflect on the milestones we missed together — the graduations and weddings, the birth of three grandchildren and three great-granddaughters, the move to Maine, my retirement and publishing Heaven Shining Through. I’ve muddled through, but it’s just not the same.

Each year at this time I’ve shared anecdotes about our life together and the quality and value of that life, the ups and downs that spanned four decades in five states, the life we built together. But as I thought about something original to post this time around, the mind went blank. I’m spent. I can’t reach back and say anything new, anything at all. I can only stare at the bronze urn with you patiently waiting for me. There are some tears in my eyes — happy tears for the memories and sad tears for the separation.

I did, however, uncover a post from 2014 that probably serves more as a lesson. As I read it, the sequence of dreams vividly resurfaced. I remember them as if they were last night. With your permission {I’m going to do it anyway} I would like to share it with you again.

“We have to talk.”

Those are four words that bring sheer fear to every male on the planet — from the days of Adam, I suspect — to the present day. Even in a dream, those words bring chills to a sleepy spine.

Those were the words that literally haunted me after a dream about a month ago. I know they certainly contributed to my melancholic mood over the past few weeks.

It wasn’t a long dream. And, has generally been the case since Karen died, she was not visible. But her voice was very much there.

The scene unfolded in my parents’ home, which is odd because Karen and I never lived at my parents’ home. But I readily recognized the brocade styled beige carpet, the sectional and the louvered closet doors {although they were in the bedroom, not the living room … but, hey, it was a dream}.

All of a sudden, Karen’s voice clearly stated THE question. “We have to talk.”

With that I woke up, totally confused even after then nearly six years of widowerhood. It wasn’t a comment that came up often during our 40 years of marriage {although it did come up … generating the same sense of trepidation}.

Why after all these years did Karen utter these words? What was on her {my?} mind?

I immediately thought of the thousands of times I might have let her down during our marriage. I thought of the hurts and slights I can never make up for. And it weighed on my psyche.

What was even more disturbing was the abruptness of the dream. It came out of nowhere and it just ended without resolution. I just knew Karen and I had “to talk.”

A couple of weeks later, I had a series of subsequent dreams … each picking up where the last one left off. They were equally vivid … with the bonus of my dear wife appearing and interacting in dreamlife.

She was standing at the closet as she uttered her words again, “We have to talk.” She was dressed in camel brown slacks with stirrups and a pink and white check shirt as she reached into the closet. “Are you okay with this?”

“Of course,” I answered as the doorbell rang.

An unseen “counselor” stepped in and the three of us sat down, Karen and I on the couch and the counselor on the straight chair. She grabbed my hand as the counselor asked why he was here. Karen answered, “We just need to reconnect and I thought an outsider could help us.” I looked at her and shook my head in agreement.

“Okay, your assignment is to remember why you first fell in love.”

I woke up for a midnight run to the bathroom, but as I drifted back asleep we — the counselor, Karen and I — were sitting at the big, round wooden dining room table. I was the only one who spoke.

“I fell in love with you because you made me feel safe in a hostile world. I knew I could tell you anything and you weren’t going to judge me. You are beautiful, witty and wise. You are my life. I may not show it all the time but my world revolves around you. I would do anything for you.”

Karen broke into tears as the counselor interjected, “Good. Next assignment is to go out together, just the two of you, and just listen to each other. Karen, open your heart. Joe, open you heart. What has made you happy? What has bothered you? What are your dreams?”

And, I woke up.

Some people think marriage
is outmoded now,
And they don’t want to make
the commitments and vows.

The next night as I drifted to sleep, we were sitting at a table in a public place. I was holding her hand as she talked, but was more focused on her black cocktail dress, her sparkling brown eyes, the red highlights shining in her hair as the light hit it and the quirky expressions on her face as she spoke.

She asked me if I was listening. “Of course. You said you wanted to feel safe and you wanted me to listen to what you say. You wanted to feel important. You wanted to be loved, not taken advantage of. And you know I do love and respect you and your opinions.”

I woke up but thought to myself, “Nailed it!” Hey, it’s my dream.

The next night we were at dinner at a five-star restaurant. Our assignment was to order dinner for each other. Although I wanted to order Chateaubriand for Two, I ordered Karen an unending plate of Alaskan King Crab, then worried if I made the right decision since she was wearing a yellow sequined top and long black skirt — you know, butter splash. She ordered me a Prime Rib End Cut.

And I awoke, with the taste of that beef in my mouth.

But I just can’t see
 from their point of view,
And I know it’s because
of how much I love you —

A couple of nights later, it was back to dreamland. This time, we were talking to our counselor back at the house. He said to us, “You didn’t need me. You needed each other. You needed to remember why you fell in love. You needed to remember to take time for each other. You needed to remember how much you complemented each other, how your individual strengths helped your spouse’s weaknesses, how your vulnerabilities were covered by your spouse. You needed to get back to basics.”

With the strains of an instrumental version of I’ve Got You Under My Skin wafting into my consciousness, I awoke … and realized the dream sequences were a reflection of our life together. It’s bittersweet. This was supposed to be our time. The closest I am going to come to visiting with Karen is in my dreams.

I cherish each promise
that holds us together,
For you’re my life’s joy,
and you will be forever.

But at the same time, we enjoyed the time we had. We each gave 100% … and that’s what it takes. Marriage is not a 50-50 proposition, it’s 100-100 with some extra thrown in. It’s hard work but we survived … because “we had to talk!”

What Is Marriage?

Marriage is the beautiful blending
Of two lives, two loves
and two hearts —
It’s the wonderful, magical moment
When a beautiful love story starts.

Marriage is caring and sharing
From the moment you first say, “I do” —
It’s learning of life’s little troubles
And all of its happiness, too.

Marriage is respect for each other,
It’s a bond made in heaven above,
it’s finding the world
in each other —
It’s laughter …
it’s joy … it’s love.
G.W. Douglas

Happy Anniversary
With All My Love
Yesterday, Today, Tomorrow, Forever

annivrsaryTHOUGHT TO REMEMBER: Live a life that ripples. Leave a positive piece of yourself with everyone you touch.

 

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Meet and Greet

I have a doctor’s appointment next Wednesday in New York. It’s no big deal … just a routine visit with my primary care physician. However, since it is a 588 mile one-way trip, I really didn’t want it to be a quick trip with a quick turnaround. I’ll head out Saturday and return home next Friday.

I normally try to squeeze in some family time when I travel — and this won’t be any different. I’ll be staying with my daughter, significant other and grandson and plan some face time with the other four grandchildren still in the Empire State. And I hope to see some friends as well.

But there is also some business to tend to. As a published author, I am going to carve out some time meeting and greeting at three formal events. The first is Sunday where I will join the 9:30 a.m. worship at Christ Episcopal Church, Willard, followed by fellowship. Tuesday I will be featured at a Meet & Greet Evening at the home of Don & Kathy Peters in Waterloo at 7 p.m. The third is next Thursday at noon at the Gould Hotel, Seneca Falls, addressing the Kiwanis Club.  In addition to meeting and greeting, I plan on catching up and talking about my book, Heaven Shining Through, and the publishing process, maybe sign and/or sell a few books and bring guests up to date with projects planned. Yes, there are projects planned — and those groups will find out about it first!

I am also planning a couple of smaller groups with friends. One of the best parts of publishing is I have met so many new and old friends and have had so many great conversations.

I could probably squeeze in additional gatherings. Just let me know.

THOUGHT TO REMEMBER: Don’t try to be the cool mom or dad. It’s embarrassing.

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Another Great Day

I woke up to some great news today … I mean, truly great news! I am now a great-grandfather for the third time. My grandson Zack and his wife Khristine welcomed Harper Jean to the world officially at 11:37 p.m., 5 pounds 14 ounces and 18 inches long. In addition to mom and day, she joins sister Addison in the Kohlhofer family.

Little Miss Harper is God’s latest gift to me. He has blessed Karen and I with five children, who in turn have blessed us with 18 grandchildren and now three great-granddaughters. I cherish each and every one in the quiver.

I think it’s amazing. I was an only child and Karen only had one sister.  My only regret is Karen isn’t here to experience this with me.

I look at babies as God’s promise He is still with us. They are a peek at the future, a look at the present and a connection to the past. They link us.

I’m still not sure I’m ready for the “great” part. I always envisioned great-grandparents as, well, old. I suppose I am old but I don’t feel “great” old, just “grand” old. And, of course, this is my third shot at “great”-ness

Harper’s birth was a reminder I’m in another season in my life, my very blessed life. I’ve managed to grow up {okay, maybe in years, anyway} and watch my children and grandchildren grow up. Hopefully, I’ll get to witness at least some of my great-grandchildren’s lives … and still remember and appreciate it.

I immediately thought of the presentation scene in The Lion King where Simba was lifted toward the heavens. I symbolically lift Harper toward the heavens, not for the oohs and aahs in this realm, but in appreciation of her Creator.

All I can do is pray for her — as I do for her parents and their parents’ parents. It’s a simple prayer. Lord, keep them close.

To Harper I utter the same prayer I’ve prayed so many times over the years.

Lord, I thank you for this gift. Give my grandchildren the same strength and wisdom You blessed me and my children with to raise her as Your special child, with potential and possibilities way beyond their belief. They will not be perfect and neither were we. She will not be perfect and neither were we. But, let us all remember whose child she is … Yours. May Harper grow as a reflection of the One who made her all the days of her life.

THOUGHT TO REMEMBER: Play games with your kids.

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Five Minute Friday — Loyal

The Five Minute Friday assignment — often a Saturday assignment for yours truly — is to write for five minutes on a prompt word, post it and share with fellow Five Minute friends at Kate’s place on Facebook at  http://www.fiveminutefriday.com. Around 100 of us gather round to encourage and support our fellow Christian writers, writing in a variety of styles and genres. It’s always very interesting to see how a simple word take shape into posts. Sometimes it’s obvious, sometimes not as much and always entertaining. Be sure to stop in and read the diversity of thought at Kate’s place. And don’t be afraid to join in!

I’ve been sharing snippets taken from Five Minute Friday: A Collection of Stories Written in Five Minutes Flat. They are a testament to the value of the exercise. The 150 blog posts were compiled from the community by Susan Shipe. The stories span a diverse range of experiences, but share a common thread: a love for the bravely written word.

This week, I’ll share some perspective from Rachel, who I hope inspires you to check us out or, better yet, encourage you to try your hand at focused, unscripted writing for just five minutes. And share it on Kate’s website.

“I was new to this whole blogging world when I came across Five Minute Friday from Lisa-Jo Baker’s place [the originator of the exercise]. I knew nothing about link-up’s, how to do it or even much about Twitter. But the FMF community was so welcoming and no question was ever dismissed or laughed at but the ladies [and gents] just jumped in and were quick to give me the ‘how-to’s’ with step by step instructions and wham-bam … there I am … instant friends and connections that link across the miles. I look forward each week to connect back with the girls [and guys] and read what they have to say. They’re my Five Minute gang and I look forward to catching up with them every Friday!”

The word this week is LOYALTY. The clock is starting, so let’s GO …

As I write this, Angelina, my shih tzu mix, is comfortably (?) lying across my lap — no, not curled up in a ball, but literally stretched out with her head resting on my knee. The laptop is nested on her back and she is completely unfazed.

That, my friend, is loyalty in action.

Generally when I’m in my recliner, she is right there with me … or at least until my restless legs start moving too much. While she sleeps in bed with me, it is generally curled at my feet. Often, she wakes me in the morning not with slobbering kisses but a methodical tail thump well within ear shot.

I told someone just this morning, I think dogs are angels sent to comfort, protect and be a loyal companion.

Angelina isn’t the first. There have been a long line of dogs in the household over the years — Tess, Tag, Mandy, Harrigan, Snoopy and even Jet going back to my younger days to name just a few. They all had that same trait … STOP

in common. Once we established boundaries — I’m still not sure who the master actually is — they have been there protecting us day and night from dangers seen and unseen and keeping us company with an unconditional love. When I fell in snowbank last winter, before I hit the soft ground, Angelina was there licking my face and making sure I was okay. Even mild-mannered Mandy turned into a pit bull (she was an English springer) when a well-known friend entered our home to pick up some baby supplies while mom and dad were not at home.

We have another loyal Friend, too. He sits with us, eats with us, sleeps with us and protects us. His name is Jesus. Angelina — and the others — are His emissaries.

THOUGHT TO REMEMBER: Take your child out for date night at least once a month. Let them pick where.

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Why?

There’s an inscription in the book George Bailey finds in the film, It’s a Wonderful Life. “Remember, George: no man is a failure who has friends.”

Let’s face it, sometimes we all feel we failed. Our emotions go underwater and we just can’t surface. The more we try, often the deeper we go.

That’s when you need the reminder from Clarence. And it was ever so present earlier this week when I deliberately chose to downplay my birthday and wallow in my own self. What have I accomplished in seventy plus one years?

My family and friends would have none of that. Just like George Bailey, they surrounded me with warmth and love on every platform I’m on. From pre-dawn to even a couple days later, someone sent me well wishes. They lifted me up from sea to shining sea and in between.

Clarence also pointed out — something we often forget — “Each man’s life touches so many other lives.” As I scanned my blog followers, Facebook followers, Twitter followers and e-mail list I realized I have influenced so many other lives … hopefully for good. I try to shine the light daily, not my light, but The Light. I do it in subtle ways.

My communication routine consists of taking a “good morning” photo to share with my kids;  spending time with the Lord; reading Ron Hutchcraft’s Word With You {Five Minute Friday: A Collection of Stories Written in Five Minutes Flat on weekends} and sharing a nugget with family and friends; wishing my Facebook friends a “Good Morning” and sharing a personal inspirational thought, a visual thought for the day, daily celebration reminders and an archived nugget  on Facebook. On Mondays, I take a moment to pray individually for my family and friends with an e-mail “words for the week” message and try to get the Facebook week off with a smile. On Wednesdays I share some midweek mirth with family and friends. On Fridays {okay, usually Saturday} I sit down for some serious Five Minute Friday free range thoughts.

That’s my routine … a couple of hours a day committed to sharing my life with those most important to me — from God to family to friends to sometimes anonymous Facebook followers. And if truth be known, if any of those steps are skipped, when I lay my head on the pillow at night, I don’t feel like it was a successful day.

It’s designed not to put me at the center, but to let others know I’m thinking about and praying for them. I don’t get a lot of daily feedback — and that’s okay. I received a ton of feedback Monday — when I needed it most.

Truly, “no man is a failure who has friends.”

THOUGHT TO REMEMBER: Watch the sun rise.

 

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Five Minute Friday — Loved

It’s time for Five Minute Friday, the weekly timed keyword-themed writing challenge hosted by Kate Motaung. Her words — and those of the others who congregate around the virtual table to share — are on Facebook at  http://www.fiveminutefriday.com. I encourage you to read them … and participate in the often challenging exercise.

I’ve been sharing snippets taken from Five Minute Friday: A Collection of Stories Written in Five Minutes Flat. They are a testament to the value of the exercise. This week, I’ll share some perspective from Leah, who I hope inspires you to check us out or, better yet, encourages you to try your hand at focused, unscripted writing for just five minutes. And share it on the Five Minute Friday website.

“I was very surprised to discover I have written 73 FMF posts, over the course of three and a half years. I wrote this past October of 2015 when I participated in my first 31 days of writing challenge, by FMF host Kate Motaung that I had chose to be part of this grooup “because it is simple, beautiful, holy.” 73 posts, and forty months of doing this honest flash mob writing thing, and I see my continual showing up has had the natural effect of making me a better writer. More than that, this continual showing up has made me a better Kingdom of God seeker. I kept coming back because The Holy Spirit kept beckoning me. A major turning point in my own FMF experience started about a year ago when I obeyed His prompting to not only comment and encourage several of my five minute Friday neighbors but pray for them as well. Pray specific. Time and time again, those I happened to be next to would post something so significant for a season I myself was in. The bond of the Spirit was there and I was overjoyed that I could be part of a fellow believer’s life for a  day. I post sporadically now. When I do, The Holy Spirit always meets me, and leads me to pray for others to make a real spiritual impact on them in a way that I will never know or see, but matters incredibly. It also lets me relax with my own writing. I do not have to gauge if it is “successful.” I trust my words will find their way to at least one fellow traveler and God can do the rest. It is truth that makes Five Minute Friday a Holy, Good, thing to me.”

The word this week is LOVED. The clock is started, so let’s GO …

I was sitting on the bench this morning just watching the sun rise and listening to the sounds of the river. A bird landed in the bush just feet away and started munching on berries. A gentle breeze was a refreshing respite from the humidity. The flow of the river made soothing sounds, with ducks and loons and even an occasional frog making an appearance.

It was soothing after a week where it was easy to question the existence of God. And it was the exclamation point highlighting God is alive and well — not only in nature but in my life and your life as well.

My readings today focused on letting go … making your petitions to the Lord and sitting back as He unlocks the doors in His time for His purpose. That is always a challenge in our time-shackled lives.

My relationships with family and friends reminded me how much I am loved, even though those times of affirmation are few and far between.

And of course, the reflections over the river reminded how much I am loved by God. I don’t have to know the answers. I don’t have to punch a clock … STOP

I don’t have to wonder if and when.

He placed me at the river’s bank this morning to remind me of His love — using nature as His chalkboard. I can truly say, I understood — no, maybe that’s not the right word — appreciate the lesson plan. God has loved me. God does love me. God will always love me.

THOUGHT TO REMEMBER: Relax and recharge to be the best you there is.

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Let’s Party

I have an appointment in upstate New York Sept. 5. It’s a long way to go for an appointment, but it is necessary, so west I go.

But I thought I could extend it a bit by scheduling a few book visits. I have nothing planned, but if any of my friends or follower from around the Seneca County area are up for it, I would be willing to stop by your place or book club or group  for a visit. If you invite a few of your friends for coffee or iced tea, we could gather to just meet and greet, catch up, talk about Heaven Shining Through and the publishing process, maybe sign and/or sell a few books and bring you up to date with projects planned. Yes, there are projects planned — and your select group will find out about it first! At worse, it would be a great time just to visit — which has become the best part of publishing. I have met so many new and old friends and have had so many great conversations.

If there is interest, I could visit with you just about any time between Sept. 2-8. Just get a hold of me by responding here or by e-mail (revblt@rochester.rr.com) or by Facebook Messenger. I want to stress this is an informal gathering — nothing fancy, just some old fashioned conversation.

THOUGHT TO REMEMBER: Your name is all you have so make it stand for something righteous.

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Five Minute Friday — Woman

Happy Saturday! Time for my Five Minute Friday contribution. Check out the amazing five minutes takes at Kate’s place on Facebook at  http://www.fiveminutefriday.com by our special community of writers.

I’ve been sharing snippets taken from Five Minute Friday: A Collection of Stories Written in Five Minutes Flat. They are a testament to the value of the exercise. This week, I’ll share some perspective from Jolene who I hope inspires you to check us out or, better yet, try your hand at focused, unscripted writing for just five minutes. And share it on Kate’s website.

“I stumbled across Five Minute Friday several years ago, when I noticed that several blogs that I read participated in the weekly link up. I checked it out one Friday night, and thought it was a fun idea and a great writing exercise. I didn’t realize then, that it is truly a community. The fellow FMF writers became my friends as we gathered each week and commented on each other’s posts. I have several friends that I would never have met if it had not been for Five Minute Friday. I am blessed to be part of this wonderfu community of writers.”

The prompt is WOMAN, yes Woman. This should be interesting.The timer has been set, so I guess it’s time to GO…

I am Woman, hear me roar!

Wait a minute. Let’s think this through. I am not a woman. But I do have some thoughts from a male perspective.

I always told my wife and daughters they should roar! They are strong, passionate and, most of all, compassionate. And all too often they never saw their power.

In my generation, woman were somehow thought of as being inferior or subservient. I, ashamedly, also took that sexist attitude growing up … but my eyes were opened. Women are not subservient. They are strong. They are helpmates and friends. They have needs — basically the same as men — but approached differently.

As I’ve matured, I noticed how much I relied (rely) on the women in my life. They lift me up, more than I can ever lift them up.

I always tried to point out their worth. Women are not “just” … STOP

… women. They are wives, mothers, friends, part doctor/nurse, confidants, chauffeurs, homemakers, domestic engineers, career women balancing home and work and generally faith-filled, even if they don’t know or acknowledge it. They can be the greatest prayer warriors in the world.

So, here’s to women! Embrace your gender! You can do anything you set your mind to! Believe in yourself! ROAR! Or as Helen Reddy sang,

I am woman
I am invincible
I am strong
I am woman

THOUGHT FOR THE WEEK: Watch your thoughts because they will become your character.

 

 

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Words for the Week

As I usually do, here are my words from behind the pulpit, delivered at Dover-Foxcrost (ME) United Methodist Church Sunday.

May these words of my mouth and this meditation of my heart be pleasing in Your sight, LORD, my Rock and my Redeemer.

I  may have mentioned, I have a weekly Monday ritual. I spend time praying for my family, friends and faith partners and share with them some nugget of encouragement for the week. Sometimes it’s a sentence. Sometimes a paragraph. Sometimes a story.  I’ve discovered each one had a special meaning to some one at some time. The message just resonated with them at just the time they needed it most. I never know who until after the fact.

And sometimes, that special meaning is meant for me.

A few weeks ago was an example. I was feeling somewhat deflated, unappreciated and overwhelmed. I was tempted to forego my weekly ritual and just broadcast a pithy one liner. But my sense of {spiritual} duty wouldn’t allow that.

I came across a story, one that has been around for awhile. I’m pretty sure I had heard it before, yet I had never heard it. It was the preamble to my prayers. And as I look back, it relates to today’ Gospel text … in a sort of a roundabout way.

It went like this …

A woman baked bread for members of her family and an extra one for any hungry passerby. She kept the extra bread on the window sill, for whosoever would take it away.

And, every day, as the woman placed the bread on the window sill, she offered a prayer for her son who had gone to a distant place to seek his fortune. For many months, she had no news of him. She prayed for his safe return.

Every day, a hunchback came and took away the bread. Instead of expressing gratitude, he muttered the following words as he went his way: “The evil you do remains with you; the good you do comes back to you!”

This went on, day after day. Every day, the hunchback came, picked up the bread and uttered the words: “The evil you do remains with you; the good you do comes back to you!”

The woman started to feel irritated. “Not a word of gratitude,” she said to herself. “Everyday this hunchback utters this jingle! What does he mean?”

One day, out of desperation, she decided to do away with the hunchback. “I shall get rid of this hunchback,” she said. And what did she do? She added poison to the bread she prepared for him! As she was about to place it on the window sill, her hands trembled. “What is this I am doing?” she said.

Immediately, she threw the bread into the fire, prepared another one and kept it on the window sill.

As usual, the hunchback came, picked up the bread and muttered the words: “The evil you do remains with you; the good you do comes back to you!” The hunchback proceeded on his way, blissfully unaware of the war raging in the mind of the woman.

That evening, there was a knock on the door. As she opened it, she was surprised to find her son standing in the doorway. He had grown thin and lean. His garments were tattered and torn. He was hungry and weak. As he saw his mother, he said, “Mom, it’s a miracle I’m here. While I was but a mile away, I was so hungry I collapsed. I would have died, but just then an old hunchback passed by. I begged of him for a small part of his food, and he was kind enough to give me a whole bread. As he gave it to me, he said, ‘This is what I eat everyday; today, I shall give it to you, for your need is greater than mine!’”

As the mother heard those words, her face turned pale. She leaned against the door for support. She remembered the poisoned bread she had made that morning. Had she not burnt it in the fire, it would have been eaten by her own son, and he would have lost his life!

It was then she realized the significance of the words: “The evil you do remains with you; the good you do comes back to you!”

 

Okay, so how do we connect the story with today’s Word (John 6:24-35)? We have a couple of common themes — bread, a feeling of being not appreciated, a message. So, let’s give it a try.

We rely so much on bread for our daily sustenance. Give us this day, our daily bread…

To bring the parable and today’s lesson into focus, let’s set the scene. John tells us the crowd of 5,000 had just been fed and Jesus attempted to get away from the crowd. He crossed the sea from Capernaum, but the crowd went looking for Him.

I can see Jesus extending His hands and saying, “What? Wait a minute? Didn’t I do enough for you? Can’t I get some rest?” Or, as He started to feel irritated, mutter, “Not a word of gratitude!”

Instead, what does Jesus do? As He does so often in the Johannine gospel, He redirects the questions from the crowd, I suppose He is hoping against hope the crowd will understand His message. Clearly, they don’t. He tells them they were looking for Him “not because you saw signs, but because you ate your fill of the loaves” and then admonishes them, “Do not work for the food that perishes, but for the food that endures for eternal life…”

They have no idea what Jesus is talking about. They were responding to full bellies … and still empty minds. They – we – think about their/our next meal, not eternity. The bread which endures is this relationship which has been made possible by the incarnation of the Son, in fact, the Son Himself, whom the Father gave for the world.

But they ask, “What sign are You going to give us then, so that we may see it and believe You? What work are you performing? Our ancestors ate the manna in the wilderness; as it is written, ‘He gave them bread from heaven to eat.'”

Again, I can see Jesus shaking His head. He wants to yell out, “I’M THE WORK! I’M THE SIGN!”

Of course, Jesus patiently tries to point out the discrepancies and plant the seeds in His followers. They are focused on what they could or should or must do, rather than on what God is doing right in front of them.

How often do we, as preachers and congregations and denominations, forget the gospel is the declaration of what God does, and instead act as though all of reality centers on, and is determined by, what we are doing? The “work of God” is belief, which is made possible only by giving the Son. Faith is always the gracious and surprising accomplishment of God.

Jesus tries to turn the point of that story to the activity of the Father here and now. The true giver in the desert was not Moses, He says, but the Father; the true bread was not the manna, but is the bread of God in the person of Jesus. To have properly heard Jesus’ words should have prompted faith, not a fixation on bread.

So He tries one last time. “I am the bread of life” … bread beyond bread, a gift from God which not only came to the world through Jesus, but is in fact Jesus Himself.

As Craig Satterlee commented, Jesus is the bread that fulfills all our hunger and thirst. Jesus frees us to follow Him not to achieve self-satisfaction, not to get anything that is in it for us, not even to attain or maintain peace of mind. Jesus frees us to embrace God’s redeeming will to restore the cosmos to what God created and humanity to what God intends. Such faith does not mean separating the spiritual out of the social. It means putting God rather than us at the center of both. When we do, we can and will expect more.

There is a lesson here for us. We, too, suffer from spiritual myopia. Wonderful things happen in our presence every day, but we fail to see them or simply take them for granted.

Martin Luther observed, “God’s wonderful works, which happen daily, are lightly esteemed, not because they are of no import but because they happen so constantly and without interruption. Man is used to the miracle that God rules the world and upholds all creation, and because things daily run their appointed course, it seems insignificant, and no man thinks it worth his while to meditate upon it and to regard it as God’s wonderful work, and yet it is a greater wonder than that Christ fed five thousand men with five loaves and made wine from water.”

God feeds billions daily, but we take notice only when we miss a meal — or when the feeding takes place under dramatic circumstances. We, too, say, “Give us a sign, Jesus. Do something spectacular, so we can believe in You.”

We, too, have a choice when it comes to Jesus. We can reject Him. We can go to Him with an open mind and allow Him to fill it. We can accept Him strictly on faith.

C.S. Lewis, who was initially an atheist, then a theist and ultimately one of the greatest Christian apologists of the 20th century, went through all three stages and came to the following conclusion in The Case for Christianity. “A man who was merely a man and said the sort of things Jesus said wouldn’t be a great moral teacher. He’d either be a lunatic — on the level with a man who says he’s a poached egg — or else he’d be the Devil of Hell. You must make your choice. Either this man was, and is, the Son of God, or else a madman or something worse.”

We, too, have to decide who Jesus is … a lunatic … the devil of hell … Son of God. But we also have to look at own state of heart and recognize our motivation. Are we looking at Jesus for what He does for us or for how He changes us? Is He a means to the filling our “stomachs” or to fill our lives with the very presence of God? Too often we fail to have eyes to see and ears to hear the God who is present in our lives, through either the sacraments or the events of everyday life. Believing is doing.

Many Christians, as John Wesley said, have just enough religion to be miserable. They are like this crowd, missing God’s gift of life in His Son. They are not experiencing abiding life. We, like this crowd, need God’s help to understand who Jesus is and what He offers us. He makes this promise not privately to an individual, but openly to a crowd. What is required of us is we come to Him and believe. Our part is relying on God’s grace.

We all have a role in building up God’s kingdom. Some are called as apostles, some prophets, some evangelists, some pastors and teachers, some writers … and some bakers and humanitarians.

“The evil you do remains with you; the good you do comes back to you!”

THOUGHT TO REMEMBER: Paying it forward is what keeps the world turning. Do your part.

 

 

 

 

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