Words for the week

As I’ve mentioned before, I have a weekly Monday ritual. I spend time praying for my family, friends and faith partners and share with them some nugget of encouragement for the week. Sometimes it’s a sentence. Sometimes a paragraph. Sometimes a story.  I’ve discovered each one had a special meaning to some one at some time. The message just resonated with them at just the time they needed it most. I never know who until after the fact.

And sometimes, that special meaning is meant for me.

This morning was an example. I was feeling somewhat deflated, unappreciated and overwhelmed. I was tempted to forego my weekly ritual and just broadcast a pithy one liner. But my sense of {spiritual} duty wouldn’t allow that.

I came across a story, one that has been around for awhile. I’m pretty sure I had heard it before, yet I had never heard it. It was the preamble to my prayers. It went like this …

A woman baked bread for members of her family and an extra one for a hungry passerby. She kept the extra bread on the window sill, for whosoever would take it away.

Every day, a hunchback came and took away the bread. Instead of expressing gratitude, he muttered the following words as he went his way: “The evil you do remains with you; the good you do comes back to you!”

This went on, day after day. Every day, the hunchback came, picked up the bread and uttered the words: “The evil you do remains with you; the good you do comes back to you!”

The woman felt irritated. “Not a word of gratitude,” she said to herself. “Everyday this hunch-back utters this jingle! What does he mean?”

One day, out of desperation, she decided to do away with him. “I shall get rid of this hunchback,” she said. And what did she do? She added poison to the bread she prepared for him! As she was about to place it on the window sill, her hands trembled. “What is this I am doing?” she said.

Immediately, she threw the bread into the fire, prepared another one and kept it on the window sill. As usual, the hunchback came, picked up the bread and muttered the words: “The evil you do remains with you; the good you do comes back to you!”

The hunchback proceeded on his way, blissfully unaware of the war raging in the mind of the woman. Every day, as the woman placed the bread on the window sill, she offered a prayer for her son who had gone to a distant place to seek his fortune. For many months, she had no news of him. She prayed for his safe return.

That evening, there was a knock on the door. As she opened it, she was surprised to find her son standing in the doorway. He had grown thin and lean. His garments were tattered and torn. He was hungry, starved and weak. As he saw his mother, he said, “Mom, it’s a miracle I’m here. While I was but a mile away, I was so hungry I collapsed. I would have died, but just then an old hunchback passed by. I begged of him for a small part of his food, and he was kind enough to give me a whole bread. As he gave it to me, he said, ‘This is what I eat everyday; today, I shall give it to you, for your need is greater than mine!’”

As the mother heard those words, her face turned pale and red. She leaned against the door for support. She remembered the poisoned bread she had made that morning. Had she not burnt it in the fire, it would have been eaten by her own son, and he would have lost his life!

It was then she realized the significance of the words: “The evil you do remains with you; the good you do comes back to you!”

When I started my “words for the week” way back yonder, it wasn’t to get anything back. I was just a way to pray for my family and friends and give them a little encouragement. And the ministry has grown over the years, from five to 10 to around 25 and now 62. And they do give me feedback, telling me when the message was just “right.”

My “words” experience also was a key impetus for starting this blog. I hoped — and hope — to give a little encouragement as we journey through life.  And I hope my new audience also gives me feedback, telling me when the message is just “right.”

THOUGHT TO REMEMBER: Do good — and don’t ever stop doing good — even if it’s not appreciated at the time.

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Dion shares his truth

This review was originally published in the Reveille/Between the Lakes

I was listening to the Malt Shop Oldies a couple of weeks ago and heard The Wanderer by Dion. So, when I was looking for another book to read, I migrated toward Dion’s Dion: The Wanderer Talks Truth.

I expected something different. I expected the “truth” Dion DiMucci would discuss was about his career and its ups and downs. And, to be sure, there are the two traditional tenets associated with most celebrities … their rise and their ruin. The unexpected twist was a third pillar … redemption.
Before you get there, you do have to trace the singer’s rise from the streets of The Bronx and his success that led to the all-familiar fall. Those stories consume the first half of the book. We won’t walk you through all the details. They are contained here and elsewhere. But we will share some of the relative points that led to the last half of the book.

Dion – he chose to use just his first name, especially professionally, because of the difficulties in pronouncing his Italian surname – came from a dysfunctional family on Belmont Avenue. His father was a dreamer and schemer who shirked his fatherly duties and his hard-working mother kept the family solvent by working as a seamstress in the neighborhood sweatshops. Home life was a war zone with loud, animated arguments permeating the two-bedroom, second story walk-up and pushing a young, impressionable Dion to the streets of Belmont’s Little Italy to find his way.

He admitted he did not always make “good” decisions growing up. He found his acceptance in gangs, which, although certainly not as violent as today, led to mostly misdemeanor mischief like petty theft, vandalism, brawling and just protecting the “turf“ from rival gangs. He started getting drunk at age 12, smoking pot at 13 and shooting heroin at 14. His gang buddies started disappearing – going to prison, overdosing or getting stabbed or killed.

He called himself a “rebel” and wore a black leather jacket, T-shirt, blue jeans, Cuban heels and Garrison belt. He slicked his hair back on the sides but liked to let his curls go wild on top.

One thing that surprised me was Dion’s interest in music. I assumed it was the pre-rock and roll genre, but it wasn’t. It was country.

He was 10 when he heard Hank Williams wail out I’m So Lonesome I Could Cry with its country moan and warble and southern twang. He became hooked and his father starting booking gigs for him, singing with a cowboy hat and kerchief. And he began singing on his front stoop, drawing a crowd.

He was also influenced by southern black Gospel and R&B and would often go to Harlem’s Apollo Theater to hear the latest and hottest bands, then practice those sounds on the trip back to Belmont Avenue.

His father set up an audition through a friend of a friend with Bob and Gene Schwartz of newly formed Mohawk Records, who liked what they heard. The first cut took off in the pivotal Boston market. The Schwartz brothers arranged the single be released on the better known Jubilee label for a wider distribution.

With work, money and respect, he quit school. He also had some leverage. He gathered up his friends – Carlo Mastrangelo, Fred Milano and Angelo D’Aleo – and worked on I Wonder Why and That’s My Desire under the group name of Dion and the Belmonts, a tribute to his old stomping ground. I Wonder Why broke into Billboard’s Top 20 in early 1958. Teen Angel, No One Knows and Don’t Pity Me followed. By age 20, he was already a millionaire a couple of times over. While his mother’s frugality coursed through his veins and he didn’t spend extravagantly, he did enjoy the “good stuff” and used his money to fuel his addictions.

Next came personal appearances and appearances on national shows like American Bandstand, keeping the group in the eyes and ears of the youth of the day.

The turning point, however, was Buddy Holly’s Winter Dance Party tour. In addition to Dion and the Belmonts, Holly booked Ritchie Valens and the Big Bopper, J.P Richardson. They were the headliners and in Clear Lake, IA, in the middle of winter when Holly decided to charter a plane for the next stop, Moorhead, MN. There was room for the pilot, Holly and two others. The remaining three headliners – Dion, the Big Bopper and Valens – flipped a coin to see who would go, Dion and the Big Bopper won the toss, but Dion didn’t think an hour’s flight was worth $36, so he gave his seat to Valens.

We all know what happened next, Feb. 2, 1959 … the day the music died in an Iowa cornfield.

The show must go on … and it did for a numbing two weeks.

That event sent Dion spiraling downward, however. The hits kept coming, which only fueled his addictions. He was grieving and angry and didn’t know how to express it and he was stoned a lot of the time. When A Teenager in Love shot to the top of the charts, no one could escape Dion and the Belmonts … but Dion couldn’t escape Dion. He tried going it alone – without the Belmonts – and succeeded professionally while slipping further and further into the pit. It showed in The Wanderer. If you listen to the words, it encapsulates Dion’s life. “I roam from town to town. I go through life without a care. And I’m as happy as a clown. I with my two fists of iron and I’m going nowhere.”

He married his longtime sweetheart Susan Butterfield March 25, 1963. As success continue on the outside, torment raged on the inside. During a candlelight dinner in France, she asked him simply, “Dion, is this all you want?” And the question scared him.

He had been using heroin for 14 years, trying to hide the addiction from the world. He finally came to the realization he had to stop or he had to die. And he found that will only when he found out Susan was pregnant.

Despite not wanting to have a marriage like his parents, Dion’s marriage wasn’t going much better. In 1968, they moved in with Susan’s parents in Florida, which is where the final pillar – redemption – is unveiled.

His father-in-law, Jack, was one of those guys who didn’t seem bothered by anything. That irritated Dion. Jack had something Dion wanted … peace. One night he got his answer. As he passed the bedroom he saw Jack on his knees by his bed in prayer. A couple of nights later, Dion asked Jack to pray for him. The response, “Oh, Dion, you should try praying yourself. God likes to hear from strangers.”

He tried it. He got on his knees just as he saw Jack do and he prayed in a rambling way. He asked God to take away his obsessions. And He did. That was the day – April 1, 1968 – the chains of alcohol and drugs were broken. Or, as he wrote, “It was like God was just waiting for me to ask.”

His redemption led him through evangelical Christianity and eventually back to his Catholic roots, despite the fact the only time the baptized Catholic or his family went to church was for weddings or funerals. Now, he has become quite the apologist for Catholicism.

It was interesting to follow this transformation, even if all of us might not have taken the final step to Catholicism. It’s a story of search … and all believers can relate.

He started with a spiritually based 12 step recovery program. He returned to music with Abraham, Martin and John. He started reading the Bible and could identify with Paul, especially his letters to Timothy. His coming to Jesus day was Dec. 14, 1979 when he prayed while jogging, “God, it would be nice to be closer to You.”

Suddenly, he said, “I was flooded with white light. It was everywhere, inside me, outside me – everywhere, Ahead of me I saw a man with his arms outstretched. ‘I love you,’ he said. ‘Don’t you know that? I’m your friend. I laid down my life for you. I’m here for you know.’”

Obviously, it’s not always white light. But those of us who have relinquished our control know the feeling.

His spiritual journey bounced through traditional and non-traditional denominations. As he put it, “… we Christians seemed to believe many different and contradictory things. Baptists believed in free will, but Calvinists didn’t. Lutherans believed Jesus was truly present in the Eucharist, but evangelicals didn’t and rarely celebrated the Lord’s Supper. Episcopalians put a lot of stock in their hierarchy (bishops, priests and deacons), while Baptists prided themselves on not having any. And on infant baptism, everybody was all over the doctrinal map …”

That raised the question, if there is one Lord, one faith, one baptism (Ephesians 4:5) why were there tens of thousands of denominations, many of them believing all the others were heretics to some degree. Preachers were interpreting the Bible, but what qualified them?

Ironically, it was a Presbyterian pastor who gave him some insight. “Unity in the essentials; liberty in the non-essentials; and charity in all things.”

He went on to say the words were from Augustine … and Dion’s interest in all Augustine took over.

He found an ally in his crisis of faith in Dr. John Haas, an Episcopalian minister who converted to Catholicism, and Marcus Grodi, a Presbyterian minister before he, too, became Catholic. And he concluded it was all about authority.

Thus he, too, returned to his Catholic roots and that has become his Truth.

Dion: The Wanderer Talks Truth, Dion DiMucci with Mike Aquilina, ISBN: 9780867169997. Softcover. 144 pages. Servant Books, Cincinnati, OH. 2011.

THOUGHT TO REMEMBER: You should try praying yourself. God likes to hear from strangers.

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Peace lily update

Well, as promised, here’s what my florist came up with. The picture may not do it justice.

When I picked it up, Judy said she had trouble coming up with a theme. She said she thought about a newspaper or writing theme, but all she could think of was a typewriter as a base … and she couldn’t find one. She decided against the fish, knowing I would have to remember to feed it.

When I picked it up the stalks were at attention and the leaves looked vibrant. Let’s see if we can keep it that way!

THOUGHT TO REMEMBER: Either God is doing a work in you or He’s using you to do a work in someone else.

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Confucius says …

“To put the world in order, we must first put the nation in order; to put the nation in order, we must put the family in order; to put the family in order, we must cultivate our personal life; and to cultivate our personal life, we must first set our hearts right.”

That sounds like a modern conservative evangelist speaking. Any thoughts? Charles Dobson? Jerry Falwell? Pat Robertson? R.C. Sproul?

Surprise! It was Confucius, about 2,500 years ago.

The quote sort of appeared today. I didn’t go looking for it. In fact, when I first read it, I didn’t even know it was attributed to Confucius.

But it struck me the problems — of the world … of the nation … of the family … of our personal lives — really do all trace back to the recesses of our heart. We do have to put our heart in order before we can possibly move on to solving other weightier issues.

What does that mean?

I said it before, but it’s worth repeating. We have to let out the hurt and the anger and the disappointment and the fear so we can let in the grace of God. We have to slow down and be still and listen to the whispers of God {or sometimes shouts}. We have to soften the hardness of our hearts.

That softness will help us cultivate our personal life and our interpersonal skills. Ironically, others will recognize that softness as strength. They will — or should — see us looking outside our own selves and self-interest.

The first and pre-eminent place this shows up is in our families. As we start treating spouses, children and siblings with respect, they feel safe and protected. And, hopefully, that transcends outside the family and into the community. We’ve seen it countless times. We bicker and battle, but in times of need, we come together as a community. We’re able to put aside our differences by softening our hearts.

Strong communities spawn strong leaders who we hope also put their personal self-interests aside. That leads to a strong nation. And, of course, a strong nation can do wonders around the globe. We don’t have to agree, but we do have to lead with a soft heart, without self-interest, but rather for the common good.

Unfortunately, though, we are seeing less and less softening and more and more hardening. Maybe it’s time to listen to Confucius and get back to setting our hearts right. Maybe it’s time to listen to the prodding of God.

THOUGHT TO REMEMBER: You can’t change people. Only God can. But you can change yourself.

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Another view

Since my daughter Deanna’s blog was an inspiration for me to begin my blogging expedition, I thought I would invite her to publish a guest post. I hope you enjoy her work as much as I do. Deanna is a Christian wife and mom to three boys. She blogs about God in her everyday life and invites you to join her on the journey. In a casual and conversational manner, spotLIGHT316 (http://journeywithd.com/) will lift you up and encourage you to be extraordinary in the ordinary of life.

There’s more to come: We continue to shout our praise even when we’re hemmed in with troubles, because we know how troubles can develop passionate patience in us, and how that patience in turn forges the tempered steel of virtue, keeping us alert for whatever God will do next. In alert expectancy such as this, we’re never left feeling shortchanged. Quite the contrary – we can’t round up enough containers to hold everything God generously pours into our lives through the Holy Spirit (Romans 5:3-5, The Message).

I love homemade noodles – like more than a normal person should. I don’t always like to make them because it is time consuming, but the finished product is never a disappointment.

The other morning, I was making a batch for my chicken noodle soup. I added the flour to the eggs and water and kneaded it to just the right consistency. This is not an easy process and it takes a good eye and feel for the dough to know when it is ready for the next step – which is rolling it. I like to get it as flat as I can without being too thin. And then I roll up the dough like a jellyroll and cut into pieces. Once all the pieces are cut, I lay them out flat to dry. As they dry, I survey the mess and cringe. Flour concoctions are never neat, right?

Quite honestly, neither is our faith. It’s not meant to be watery and should never be kept intact inside a pretty container. We have to allow God to work in our lives, kneading and rolling and cutting through as He shapes us perfectly in His likeness. Sometimes that can {and often should} be messy.

After they sit out for a while {like hours} the noodles begin to dry and eventually are ready to be put into a pot of hot soup! And so are we. God is doing all that work to prepare us for something great – and that “something” could be scary. Unknown.

Sometimes I fight that. I’m not ready to take the next step. To put my foot in the boiling water. But we have some promises that we need to keep a tight grip on throughout the process. None more inspiring than the very fact that God has it all under control. Stop fighting. Stop resisting. Allow yourself to be shaped into his likeness, all-the-while knowing He has something incredible in store for you – and the finished project won’t ever be a disappointment.

What are you resisting today? Can I encourage you to allow God to do His thing … so that you can do the work He is preparing for you?

Keepin’ it Real … D

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Have I got a deal for you …

Commercials. You’ve got to love them.

Now, I realize the intent is to sell you and me something, but they really don’t have to insult our intelligence to do it.

Let me give you some examples.

The Toyota commercials where people slide from the living room into the show room and the car slides from the sales lot to the driveway. The point — now is the time to buy. Okay, but do they really need the scrawl telling us the movement isn’t real? Don’t they think we can figure that out? Do they think we’ll return the car because it doesn’t slide sideways?

Automotive advertising sort of, well, teases us. You’ll never see a “basic” package being pitched, but one with all the gizmos available … some of which you have no clue what they do.

And those gizmos … I mean they are literally computers at your fingertips. You can hook up with navigation, alternate routes, weather, sports and stocks, voice recognition and Bluetooth. You can even passively park your car. When do you actually drive your car? It’s become more of an entertainment cockpit. I don’t know about you, but I have trouble navigating my smart phone while I’m standing still. I can only imagine the fun I could have at 60 mph.

And those prices … I mean they routinely point out high end leases in the $500 per month range (or more!) and prices over $50,000. I didn’t pay that much for my first house.

High end car commercials are the best. Can you imagine someone driving their Mercedes or Acura or Lexis or Land Rover or Cadillac backwards or with hard braking or off road or some other insane “professional driver on a closed course” antic? Better yet, with all the onboard sensors, can you imagine the reaction when you bring the car in for service? Say bye bye to your warranty.

And then you have auto insurance. If you can believe the pitches, you can save hundreds over the competitors. I wonder why my insurance keeps going up.

And then you have smart phones. In my neck of the woods, I’m lucky to complete a call let alone worry about 3G or even 4G. I don’t know about you, but I’m pretty sure those in the commercials can text, search and watch videos in 30 seconds only because their batteries will be dead in 60. My phone is almost permanently plugged in … sort of a portable land line.

I could go on and on — Why do we allow pharmaceutical advertising when we can’t prescribe medication? Why does Cialis feature two bathtubs? How does that Coors train find tracks? Do you find those “little bit of luck“ guys creepy? — but you get the point.

What about you? What commercials leave you scratching your head?

THOUGHT TO REMEMBER: Wherever you are, know God has put you there for a reason.

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Now playing …

Someone asked me the other day if I had seen a new movie — one that was still in theaters. The answer was no. The last movie I saw was The War Horse, a Christmas present for a special friend last New Year’s Eve. Prior to that, it was Mama Mia with Karen during her good days. Typically, my movie watching is limited to my three year old queue with Netflix.

I also don’t typically like to watch a movie more than once. But there are exceptions.

My all time favorite film is The Jazz Singer with Neil Diamond. It’s a combination of restlessness, passion and, most important, redemption I can relate to. And it has an awesome sound track!

In the action realm, I can watch the Tom Clancy’s Jack Ryan (Harrison Ford) films — Patriot Games, The Hunt for Red October, Clear and Present Danger and The Sum of All Fears — more than once and have been known to have a Lethal Weapon weekend marathon. I liked The Fugitive (also with Harrison Ford) and The Perfect Storm. For a little bit of intrigue, oldies The Net or War Games could command my attention more than once. True Lies and Jumping Jack Flash were Karen’s quirky action favorites that sort of grew on me as well.

Comedies are always a pick me up. My favorites include Ferris Bueller’s Day Off, Fletch, For Richer or Poorer, Funny Farm, Housesitter, Leap of Faith, The Money Pit, Overboard and Sister Act but my all time favorites are The Long, Long Trailer and Vacation.

My lovely wife and I watched many “chick flicks” over the years. My favorites are The Cutting Edge, Dirty Dancing, Flashdance, Footloose, Ghost, High Society, Ice Castles, One Fine Day, An Officer and a Gentleman, Pretty Woman, Sabrina, Serendipity, Sweet Home Alabama, When a Man Loves a Woman, Working Girl and my favorite, Up Close and Personal.

My drama list would include A Few Good Men, Mrs. Doubtfire, The Firm, The Pelican Brief and Twister.

Family fare would include the Shreck series and Lean on Me, which brings me back to Paterson.

I also enjoy watching Charlotte’s Web, Ice Age 1 and 2 (3 was a bit too much), Inspector Gadget, Stuart Little and The Lion King 1, 1 ½ and 2 with the grandkids.

My sporting blood enjoys Hoosiers, The Hurricane (another Paterson connection), Miracle, We Are Marshall and the Rocky marathon.

I’m not a big musical fan, but I can watch Best Little Whore House in Texas (which I actually saw in a theater in Texas), Bells of St. Mary’s, Going My Way and Damn Yankees.

Christian movies that have made their mark include Left Behind, The Gospel and The Second Chance.

Holiday classics include Emmet Otter’s Jug-band Christmas — a family staple which we watched every year since its release in 1977 — Christmas Story, Christmas Vacation, It’s a Wonderful Life, Miracle on 34th Street (the original from 1947), The Preacher’s Wife, the Santa Clause trilogy and White Christmas. Can’t wait for the season to dust these CDs off.

Well, those are my picks. What about you?

THOUGHT TO REMEMBER: When things are difficult, smile by faith.

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Conversation with God

Over the past few years I have sent “words for the week” — collected from a variety of sources — to my family, friends and faith partners as a way of encouragement. I’ve discovered each one had a special meaning to some one at some time. The message just resonated with them at just the time they needed it most. I never know who until after the fact. It also gives me a reason to specifically and consciously lift up each of them individually in prayer.

And, it’s a two-way street. My family, friends and faith partners have reciprocated with their own “words,” often hitting their mark at just the right time.

Today was a perfect example. I received the following “conversation with God.” It may have been around for awhile, but it’s the first time it resonated with me.

Me: God, can I ask you a question?

God: Sure.

Me: Promise you won’t get mad?

God: I promise.

Me: Why did you let so much stuff happen to me today?

God: What do you mean?

Me: Well, I woke up late.

God: Yes.

Me: My car took forever to start.

God: Okay.

Me: At lunch they made my sandwich wrong and I had to wait.

God: Hmmm.

Me: On the way home my phone went dead just as I picked up a call.

God: Okay.

Me: And on top of all that, when I got home I just wanted to soak my
feet in my new foot massager and relax, but it wouldn’t work! Nothing went right today! Why did you do that?

God: Well, let me see. The Death Angel was at your bed this morning and I had to send one of the other angels to battle him for your life. I let you sleep through that.

Me (humbled): OH …

God: I didn’t let your car start because there was a drunk driver on
your route who would have hit you if you were on the road.

Me: (ashamed)

God: The person who made your first sandwich today was sick and I didn’t want you to catch what he has. I knew you couldn’t afford to miss work.

Me (embarrassed): Ok …

God: Your phone went dead because the person who was calling was going to give false witness about what you said during that call. I didn’t even let you talk to them so you would be covered.

Me: (softly) I see, God.

God: Oh, and that foot massager had a short that was going to throw out all of the power in your house tonight. I didn’t think you wanted to be in the dark.

Me: I’m sorry God.

God: Don’t be sorry, just learn to trust me in all things, the good and
the bad.

Me: I will trust you.

God: And don’t doubt MY plan for your day is always better than
your plan.

Me: I won’t, God. And let me just tell you God, thank you for
everything today.

God: You’re welcome, child. It was just another day being your God, and I love looking after my children.

Thanks Diane.

THOUGHT TO REMEMBER: Smiles are workplace winners.

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Every Day a Friday

This review was originally published in the Reveille/Between the Lakes

I like to think I’m a pretty positive, glass half full type guy. But, admittedly, over the past few weeks and months, I have been mired in a little bit of a blue funk. I wanted some of that joy back. I wanted to smile again, not just a little smirk but a Joel Osteen like smile that lights up his face from ear to ear.

So, speaking of Osteen, I decided to read his latest book, Every Day a Friday: How To Be Happier Seven Days a Week. The book, his latest, is based on studies that show people are “happiest” on Fridays as they look forward to the weekend. Or, as Osteen put it, “People are excited about the coming weekend, so they decide to be happier. They make up their minds on Fridays to enjoy their lives more.”

Now, out of disclosure, I have to admit I’m not a Joel Osteen fan. Theologically, I agree with many of his critics who claim he preaches “Christianity lite.” If you do listen to his sermons, he comes off as more of a motivational speaker than a pastor. His Scriptural references support his motivational themes rather than the other way around.

But I decided to pick up the book anyway.

It’s a fairly quick read. There are no new revelations about happiness and how to achieve it. Most of the illustrating anecdotes are well known and the one line directives – “Happiness is a choice” … “We can’t control all our circumstances, but we can control our reactions” … “When things are difficult, smile by faith” … “You can’t do anything about your past, but you can do something about your future” … “Every setback is a set up for a comeback” – are tried and true.

But I did find as I flipped through the pages, those pithy phrases resonated with me. They reminded me how much control I had over my happiness. In the style of a Norman Vincent Peale or Zig Ziglar, Osteen pounds home the elemental keys to joy and happiness – don’t give away your power, know what to ignore, live without crutches, laugh often, celebrate yourself, travel light and be a dream releaser.

After reading the book, I have found a new sense of joy. I have been waking up looking forward to the day rather than regretting it. I haven’t allowed people or circumstances to sour that joy. I consciously choose to enjoy the present and look to the future rather than dwelling on the past. It brought me back to my reality.

Sometimes, you just need a little reminder.

Every Day a Friday: How To Be Happier Seven Days a Week, Joel Osteen, FaithWords, New York. 287 pages. ISBN 978-0-89296-991-3 (hard cover) Also available in large print, paperback, e-book and audio edition.

THOUGHT TO REMEMBER: The bible says to be sober-minded, not sober-faced.

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Peace Lily Renaissance

I pulled into the back lot at my florist this morning, walked in and picked a white and coral rose from the cooler. It’s been a Saturday tradition for the past four years. I put it on the counter and it hit me … I had forgotten to bring a peace lily in for re-potting.

Now, that’s not the end of the world, but it visibly jarred me, to the point the clerks noticed something was definitely amiss.

To bring you up to speed, the peace lily was sent in memory of my Dad who died a couple of months ago. I brought it home with me and have managed to keep it alive. Of course, it’s pretty hard to kill a peace lily. The flowers and leaves will wilt, but a quick rehydration brings those stalks back to their stately stature.

But it is time to re-pot, get it out of its plastic urn and into something more appropriate.

The girls asked me what color scheme I preferred.

Color scheme? From a guy who wears whatever is next in his closet? {ask my kids}

I told them to use their imagination.

Then they suggested possibly a fish bowl, complete with a beta fish.

Hmm. That sounds intriguing. I never had fish before. It could be an interesting twist.

Again I told them to use their imagination.

I’ll keep you posted. Who knows where their imagination will take me.

So I have to stop back at the florist Monday. Hopefully, I’ll remember to bring the peace lily with me this time.

 

THOUGHT TO REMEMBER: It’s liberating when you understand you don’t have to give away your joy.

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