Five Minute Friday — Top Post of 2016

I did just what I promised last week and waded through this year’s Five Minute Friday posts to pick out YOUR favorite. Ironically, while not Christmasy, it was relevant to the season. This week we celebrate Christ’s birth. YOUR favorite of my posts was the other end of Christ’s life … His death and resurrection. It was written March 25 — Good Friday.

The prompt that week courtesy of Kate Motaung (http://katemotaung.com/2016/03/24/five-minute-friday-alive/) was ALIVE. I had set the timer, let my fingers do the pecking and contributed this post to the 100-plus strong writing flash mob known as Five Minute Friday. Do stop by and see what these incredible {mostly} women share.

It’s time to GO

It’s good to be alive.

Truth is, we don’t always feel alive. We’re often burdened, tired, beat down. We go through the motions, but the heart and soul just don’ exude the passion for life.

We’ve all been there. I’ve been there. And it’s not just after a loss or a setback. Life sometimes can suck the — well — life out of life.

I know that’s especially true after the loss of a longtime spouse, parents, siblings or close friend. What’s the point of going on? The hole in your heart is pretty big. Been there. Done that.

It’s good for us to remember on this Good Friday there was a band of disciples who had their lives turned upside-down as well. They were scared. They were numb. They went into hiding … fully expecting those who crucified their Leader could very well be after them next.

And I think their faith may have been shattered as well — or at least … STOP

… whatever faith they had. They believed in Jesus. He was not only their friend and confidant, He was the expected Messiah … the Deliverer from bondage … the Healer.

I don’t think they fully understood all that. I think they were looking on a human plane and didn’t grasp the words and teachings of Jesus until later.

For now, they watched Him beaten, battered and crucified — a very ugly way to die. The religious leaders of the day — through the Romans — didn’t just want to condemn Jesus. They wanted to make an example of Him. They wanted to quell this insurrection once and for all, small as it was.

Those disciples had every reason to be afraid. Those disciples had every reason to retreat. Their faith in Jesus was tested and challenged.

That all changed a few days later when the women went to anoint the body, only to find it was gone. And as Jesus started to appear to them, their eyes were opened. Their minds were opened. Jesus’ teaching suddenly made sense. He was speaking on a different plane. He was talking about spiritual deliverance.

He’s alive! And because He’s alive, I can face tomorrow … and the next day … and the next day until I become alive with Him, not in the physical sense, but in the spiritual sense.

One of my favorite Christian songs is Because He Lives. Another is He’s Alive. And in keeping with the theme of this week’s prompt, I’ll share Dolly Parton’s rendition of He’s Alive.

 

It is what gets me through the dark days.

And so, as we remember and celebrate the birth of our Savior, let’s also remember and celebrate the reason why He came.

May all have a Blessed and Merry Christmas and a Happy, Holy New Year!

THOUGHT TO REMEMBER: He who has no Christmas in his heart will never find Christmas under a tree.

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Five Minute Friday — Now

This will be the last Five Minute Friday (or Saturday) post of the year. The group is taking the next two weeks off (sort of) … something about the hustle and bustle of the Christmas/New Year’s season. Goodness Kate, the next link up isn’t until Jan. 6. That’s NEXT year!

Seriously, since school kids get a Christmas break, I guess we adults should as well. And we do have a couple of “special” link ups at Kate’s place, http://katemotaung.com/2016/12/15/five-minute-friday-now/ if we get bored with fruitcake or Hallmark Christmas movies. Kate’s planning a link on Top Posts of 2016 next Wednesday (Dec. 21) and Books I Read in 2016 for Dec. 28. I’ll probably wade through this year’s Five Minute Friday posts and pick out YOUR favorite, but will probably pass on the books. As a writer, believe it or not, I am not much of a reader.

If you haven’t been following FMF in 2016, make it a new year’s resolution to follow — and join us — in 2017. It’s really a fun way to see how your mind reacts to a one word prompt and converts them into letters, words and sentences in just five minutes (more or less). But more important, it’s the encouragement we give to and get from our fellow writers that makes this such a valuable exercise. We get to “know” each other, support each other, lift each other up, pray for each other. It may not be in real life … but it’s certainly in real heart. It’s not just a writing group. It’s a community.

And, before we start, I want to wish each and every one of you a Blessed and Merry Christmas and a Happy, Holy New Year! Keep following the Son!

The final 2016 prompt is NOW. The timer is set, so let’s let the neurons out and see what they produce. GO …

Now. Too late.

Now. Missed it.

Now. Didn’t make it.

Now is the present moment. We can string the time into a extended period — like a date or holiday or event –but in reality it is now (already gone).

We’re all given so many “nows” in our life. What we do with them is up to us. We can squander them. We can use them productively. But most of all we should savor each and every one of them. We can’t go back. We can only guess at the future. All we have is now.

I hope as we move forward, we remember that. Now is now. It’s not yesterday. It’s not tomorrow.

Use the time were given wisely. This doesn’t mean we can’t slough off now and then, but even a hiatus contains “nows.” We can be still and in that now know God is God and He is in control.

I’m looking forward to living each now to its fullest. What …STOP

… about you?

THOUGHT TO REMEMBER: Thankfully our Savior is not Santa Claus. He gave His best to us because we were not good. – Moe Bergeron

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Five Minute Friday — Joy

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Sometimes, inspiration comes from strange places and circumstances arise to allow you to take advantage of it. That’s the back story for this week’s Five Minute Friday.

Our leader, Kate Motaung, presents us with the word for the week for us to ponder and promote with five minutes of uninterrupted writing. We then meet and greet at her place, http://katemotaung.com/2016/12/08/five-minute-friday-joy-guest-post/, to compare our words. I’m amazed with what comes out of our collective minds… not always great but always honest.

I’ll let Kate take over for a minute …

So I woke up this morning and wondered, What should the Five Minute Friday word be for this week?

Then I opened my email inbox and found a message from Andrew Budek-Schmeisser, long-time faithful member of the FMF community.

If you own the Five Minute Friday book, you’ll know that Susan Shipe dedicated the book to Andrew — a daily fighter and warrior against the ugly, horrific ravages of terminal cancer.

This morning Andrew shared a post he wrote in advance for this week’s Five Minute Friday linkup. He didn’t know the word yet — I hadn’t even chosen it yet — but his post was titled, Count it all joy.

I decided then and there that I had to share it with you here…

So — because of Andrew and the words he shared — this week’s Five Minute Friday prompt is JOY.

As Kate pointed out, we’ve already written on the prompt word a number of times. In fact, just three weeks ago the word was ENJOY. I’ve written on the prompt twice in my tenure here, as well as a sermon titled Joy … Joy … Joy. And I like to approach life with a sense of joy — always have and always will.

Which brings us to point two in the exercise. Normally, my Fridays are crammed with work and I don’t generally post until Saturday. Lo and behold, my afternoon opened up so — voila! — here’s my assignment on time!

The timer is set, so, it’s time to GO…

Reading Andrew’s story of suffering does not bring joy to mind. Watching my wife go through her trials with cancer did not bring joy to my mind. Watching anyone suffer physically or emotionally or financially is not joyful.

However, the common denominator between Andrew and Karen — and the countless other Christian brothers and sisters I’ve watched struggle through life — is their sense of joy. Certainly it’s not at the joy of the pain. But it is an internal barometer that lets them see the joy in other, little, seemingly unnoticed things and events that bring them joy and a respite from their ills.

It’s an approach to life — even in struggling times. If you look for the good, you’ll certainly find it, just as if you look for the bad, it will find you. It’s an attitude. It’s knowing there is more to this life than just living day to day. It’s recognizing there is joy — inexplicable joy — on the other side.

It’s … STOP

… hard to see the Sonshine amid the dark, gloomy days. It’s easy to fall into the trap of Why me?

Where’s the joy?. Andrew says the answer is simple. The joy is in the process of showing up.

I lean on the words in Ecclesiastes at times like this … a time to be born, and a time to die … a time to weep, and a time to laugh … a time to mourn, and a time to dance … (Ecclesiastes 3). I know the promise of God will be there tomorrow. And because He lives, I can wait for tomorrow.

Life happens. It’s cyclical. There are good times and bad times. There are times when you want to stay huddled under the covers. But there is a time to shout with joy when the morning light pierces that darkness.

When Karen died, the nights seemed endless and darkness was everywhere. But morning came. There are shouts of joy in little things … in growing families … in being able to share my experiences with Karen and to honor her through the memories we’ve shared.

Weeping may last for the night, But a shout of joy comes in the morning. Psalm 30:5b

We can wallow in the darkness … or we can shout with joy at the light!

THOUGHT TO REMEMBER: God is listening all the time.

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Treasures on the Road

Those who follow my blog know I love driving. It doesn’t matter whether it’s the Interstate or back roads … city or country … with a destination in mind or going on a serendipitous journey.

Over the years, I’ve had many adventures on the road and even the bad ones never dented the steeled will to get behind the wheel.

And I found a host of treasures lying there on the side of the road. I pimped my plain Jane ’65 Corvair with a chrome tailpipe extender. And I found the neatest chrome tow ball I converted into a gear shift lever, including engraving the shift pattern in the chrome. My Dad was excited I was finally taking an interest in his avocation, helped me with the intricacies of engraving on a round surface and suggested I use the special paint he used when engraving submarine plaques. Alas and alack, it was the only time I expressed ANY interest in his engraving.

This all came flooding to my mind the other day when a plastic gas can flew out of the back of a pick up truck in New Hampshire. But I must be getting old. I just swerved around it.

Back in the day, I probably would have maneuvered through traffic to retrieve the treasure [open the door and pluck it from the road with a precision move at 70 mph]. I mean, over the years I have picked up hundreds of bungee cords [especially if they had two S hooks] and straps as well as an assortment of metal strips, hubcaps, plastic tubes and other automotive knick knacks.

Which brings me to the main thought racing through my head. I remembered an incident way back when — probably 1966 or so — on Route 80 just outside Paterson, NJ. On that day, I was taking Karen somewhere — I don’t remember where. This was also before we were dating.

Just past the Madison Avenue ramp, a Wonder Bread truck ahead of us hit a bump. His back door opened, and out fell an assortment of bread and snacks. He continued on his route unfazed by the mishap, but of course, I pulled over, got out of the car and started collecting the manna from heaven.

When I returned to the car with an armful of bread, donuts, Twinkies and Ho Hos, Karen was speechless with her mouth wide open in amazement.

“Whaaat?” I asked as I threw the bounty in the back seat.

“I don’t believe you did that!” she exclaimed.

“Whaaat?”

“The … the  … the bread!”

“What about it?”

“It was on the ground!”

“So,” I responded. “Five second rule applies.”

“What?”

“You know, if food hits the floor, you can eat it if you retrieve it within five seconds,” I explained.

“That wasn’t the floor!” she countered. “It was the road! And it was more than five seconds.”

“Floor, ground … same thing,” I mumbled with a mouthful of Ho Hos. “And if the wrapper doesn’t break, the rule is extended to five minutes.”

“You … are … crazy,” she stammered as she rejected a Ho Ho. “Certifiably crazy.”

She continued to lecture me on the evil of my ways as I reached into the back seat for a box of donuts. It was unsanitary. It was reckless. I remember her saying something about telling my mother, but honestly all I heard was “blah … blah … blah.” Hey. I didn’t have to listen to her lecture. She wasn’t my girlfriend and I didn’t have to impress her.

She tried insulting me. “Look, a half eaten McDonald’s,” she pointed out. She tried to reason with me. “Do you know you could have gotten hurt out there?” She even tried persuading me. “Girls don’t like that kind of behavior.”

I remained nonplussed, gave her one of my classic shrugs and “Whaaat” looks … and offered her a donut. This time she accepted it.

THOUGHT TO REMEMBER: What we have is all we need.

 

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Five Minute Friday — Crave

It’s time to carve out a new chapter for the week. The prompt has been given — CRAVE. My thoughts have been organized {as much as they can}. My fingers are awaiting commands from my head, heart and soul. The timer has been set. Soon I’ll craft the post. Next will be posting the post, then joining with my writing friends at Kate’ place (http://katemotaung.com/2016/12/01/craving-connection-a-new-book-five-minute-friday-crave/). Finally, the most important step, reading what my lovely friends have shared. I hope you can join us too. You’re welcome as a guest and super welcome as a contributor!

Let’s GO…

Some people crave fame and fortune. I don’t. I’ll settle for being comfortable in my own skin and trust in the Lord for my needs.

Some people crave attention. I don’t. I would much rather be in the background.

Some people crave the limelight. I don’t. Give me a quiet day at a quiet place with family and/or good friends and I’m happy. And I’m just as happy with a quiet day at a quiet place by myself.

Some people crave power. I don’t. I’m content with doing my job as faithfully as I can, knowing my little contributions are part of a greater plan.

Some people crave self-fulfillment. I don’t. My fulfillment is serving … my God … my family … my friends … my community.

Some people crave constant, instant gratification. I don’t. I cherish the surprises and anticipation of life {even when they don’t go as planned}. Each moment is a new adventure. … STOP

… I don’t have to plan it out.

I guess, in short, I simply crave living my life as best I can and wrapping myself in everyday blessings — seen and unseen.

THOUGHT TO REMEMBER: In difficult seasons, remind yourself God is still on the throne. Just because the grass looks dead, doesn’t mean it will never be green again.

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I Guess It’s Santa Season

I was snug as a bug in a rug cuddled in my comforter in bed a couple of Saturdays ago. The sun was just starting to peek out as I reached that quasi-conscious state when I “heard” the sound of sleigh bells. Instinctively, I thought I must still be dreaming.

But they got louder and I heard a snort or two, but just rolled over. A few minutes later, there was a knock at the back door. Then another knock. Finally the doorbell.

I went downstairs and there he was. Santa Clause.

“Good morning, Joe!” the jolly old elf bellowed. All I could say was, “Santa?”

“Come on, come on, man,” SC said. “The day’s awastin’!”

“Santa?”

“Yeah. It’s me. Get dressed.”

“Why?”

“Because I have that gig up in Waterloo and you did such a good job chauffeuring me last year, I thought you might do it again.”

“How did you get here?” I asked.

“Comet and Vixen drove me in the sleigh,” he responded matter-of-factly.

“Well, why don’t they take you up there?”

I got one of those are you really asking me to reconsider the naughty and nice list looks as he very deliberately stated, “Because … I … want … you … to … take … me.”

“Okay! Okay! I get it,” I responded. “I’ll get dressed.”

As I headed back up the stairs, Santa added, “It’ll be fun. We’ll get a chance to talk and catch up. And Comet and Vixen can help you trim your grass. I just hope they don’t overeat and get sick.”

Just as a point of reference, you see, every year around this time, I get an unexpected visit from the jolly old elf or one of his representatives. One year it was Agent 0070826980826981224943020723604485615082698 — otherwise known as Ralphie {see my post, https://wisdomfromafather.com/2012/12/23/the-gifts/} when I was on assignment in St. Thomas. Other times it was Santa’s reindeer {did you know they not only fly, but talk as well?}. Of course, his elves were frequent visitors {I remember Elfis and Alf, two of the nicest elves Santa has, but they’re both a few sticks short of a Lincoln log home}. And Santa himself wasn’t a stranger. He stopped by last year, although the last time he actually visited with me was about 19 years ago when he got lost trying to find Willard/Romulus/Ovid.

As I lead Santa to the Subaru, he blurts out, “Thought we were taking your little red truck?”

“Can’t,” I explained. “It won’t pass inspection.”

“Hmmm,” he said. “We don’t have inspections at the North Pole.”

“Well we do in New York State, and they sort of frown on Swiss cheese frames,” I answered.

As we’re driving and maneuvering around an occasional swerving car as occupants noticed my special passenger, I noticed Santa had an armful of books with him. “Where did you get them?” I asked.

“At the library,” he responded.

“Okay, how did you get them?”

“I signed them out as S. Claus and gave them your address,” Santa said. “Don’t forget to bring them back.”

We get up to Waterloo and the St. Francis-St. Claire Christmas Bazaar. The jolly old elf made a grand entrance, worked the bazaar rooms and took his place of honor. Repeatedly he bellowed “Merry Christmas” to the young and old. I watched him have his picture taken with children and adults. He seemed to take pleasure panning for the cameras, listening to the young one’s hopes for Christmas morning. He was comfortable holding a three month old, had a sparkle in his eye when two young ladies asked for a picture with him and hugged a grandmotherly woman with warmth. He also knelt beside a one week old, gently adding a “God bless you” to his greeting.

Three brothers stopped by with their lists, with the two older gents making note the four year old just “scribbled.” “That’s okay,” Santa said with a smile. “I can read scribble,” as the eyes of his older brothers turned into saucers and drawing an awe-filled, “You can?”

He explained to the children how they should be good all year long, but especially at this time of year. One girl said there was an elf at her house, causing the big guy to ask, “Is it Holly?” “How did you know her name?” she asked in shock. “I know all my elves,” said Santa. “They give me regular updates.”

That even surprised me. How did he know the elf’s name? With a twinkle in his eye, Santa told me, “Sometimes you just get lucky.”

I was awed by his gentleness. He actually sprinkled some “Christmas” dust in the air and perhaps, just perhaps, got the season off  to a good, wholesome start, remembering the festivities but also the reason for the season.

As we drove back, I asked Santa why he does these gigs.

“So I can remember what it’s all about,” he said. “It’s not just the kids … it’s the kid in all of us. It’s not just about the toys and games. It’s about family. It’s about simple faith. It’s about the promises and hope for future generations. When you hold a baby you know all is well with the world. When you hug a grandma you rekindle their faith in the future. That’s why I do these gigs. I need to be reaffirmed at times, too.”

We got back home and Santa hitched up the reindeer. He gave me a hug. “Thanks,” he said. “See you in a couple of weeks.”

No, Santa. Thank you.

THOUGHT TO REMEMBER: God put Santa Claus on earth to remind us Christmas is ‘sposed to be a happy time. — Bil Keane

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Five Minute Friday — Surrender

As I’m waiting for my “official” Thanksgiving celebration — smelling the delicacies cooking for a Saturday family gathering — it seems like a good time to tackle this week’s Five Minute Friday exercise. It’s on my list of thanks this Thanksgiving.

I encourage you to join in the festivities by joining us at Kate’s place (http://katemotaung.com/2016/11/24/five-minute-friday-surrender-black-friday-deals/). It’s really simple. Watch for the prompt, write for five minutes, share your post and get ready to enjoy what the other talented writers have contributed.

The prompt this week is SURRENDER. The timer has been set to five minutes, so it’s time to GO…

The prompt word is not in my vocabulary. I don’t have a white flag in my quiver. I’m not ready to surrender to anyone or anything. I will battle to my last breath because I don’t know the meaning of the word defeat.

That being said, there was a time in my life when I did surrender … way back in a pew when I decided to follow Jesus in thought, word and deed. I surrendered my life to Him and, even though I have strayed from the path, I knew He was  there to chide me or lead me back to the right path.

So, since then so many years ago, Jesus became my leader and general and I will follow Him. I know He does not know the meaning of the word surrender either. I’ve heard how He walked out of a tomb. I understand how He will lead me to glory of His presence. And I learned it’s up to Him to lead the charge through life and up to me to follow His lead. That’s why  … STOP

… I don’t need a white flag. That’s why I can confidently say I won’t surrender. I already know the battle is won.

THOUGHT TO REMEMBER: Never give the devil a ride, he’ll end up driving.

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Finding Maine

Now that I’m more settled in Maine, as I travel I try to do some exploring. My latest trip was bookended with visits to Lincoln and Guilford/Abbott.

Lincoln? Guilford/Abbott?

Believe it or not, there is a method to my sightseeing madness. I decided I would visit each county, one per month. I would start by Bing searching photos from the respective county and point the nose of the car in that direction. And, of course, I would check out local attractions and eating establishments in those communities.

20161111_152211So far, I have visited Auburn/Lewiston in  Androscoggin County for photo ops of the bridge separating the two towns and dinner at Mac’s Downeast Seafood; Allagash in frosty Aroostook County because — just because — with an afternoon dessert at Two Rivers Lunch; Portland in Cumberland County for a downtown and waterfront stroll and lunch at DiMillo’s on the Water (floating restaurant); Weld in Franklin County for a hike toward Tumbledown Lake (never made it to the lake, only about halfway up the trail and skipped dinner); Hancock in Hancock County to visit Frenchman Bay Conservancy and the reversing falls with dinner at the Salt Box; State Capitol Augusta in Kennebec County for a stroll along the riverfront watching the sturgeon jumping out of the Kennebec River and working up an appetite with a visit to Old Fort Western before chowing down at Riverfront Barbeque and Grille; Port Clyde in Knox County  for  visit to the Marshall Point Lighthouse Museum and dinner at the Yardbird Canteen; Southport in Lincoln County for a coastal experience and dinner at Robinson’s Wharf; and to a little town in the western foothills of Maine called Dixfield in Oxford County where I walked across the bridge and along the Androscoggin River bank on both sides before settling for dinner at the quirky Front Door Cafe.

Which brings us to Lincoln in Penobscot County and Guilford/Abbott in Piscataquis County. They were the next two counties on the list, and I needed to stop in both counties in November because I didn’t make it to Maine at all in October.

20161111_152253In full disclosure, Dover-Foxcroft, where I now reside while in Maine, is in Piscataquis County and Penobscot County is its neighbor to the south and west. I’ve been in both counties many, many, many times. But following the script, I came up with Lincoln and Abbott.

Lincoln is not necessarily a tourist haven in early November. Summer is its busy time with 13 ponds and Rollins Mountain, although it is billed as a four season destination. But whether it’s November or the middle of July, the town had it’s own little charm. As like most little towns in Maine, downtown is picturesque. The town tourism catchphrase is “Come for the lakes, but stay for the lifestyle.” Right now, the town is gearing up for its annual Festival of Lights Parade, part of the Lincoln Tree Lighting event and the Chamber of Commerce is encouraging the 5,085 residents of the town to deck out those tractors, trucks and mini-cars and join in the fun. This year’s parade theme is “Home for the Holidays” in honor of our men and women in uniform. The parade takes place Dec. 3.

20161111_160103Food is also part of these junkets. I had intended to eat at Crazy Dog, but alas and alack, it was closed. So I opted for plan B — Gillmor’s Restaurant. A pretty good choice with a Fish and Chips dinner that hit the spot.

Back in Piscataquis County, the itinerary pointed to Abbott, which, ironically, is where the grandkids, kids and I camped last summer. I knew exactly where it was but, in truth, there really isn’t much to Abbott. If you blink you miss it. But right on the border with Guilford, there is a little park and boat launch and, despite a misty morning, it was the perfect spot to wander and wonder at the rolling Piscataquis River. That water would ultimately find  its way to the dam in Dover-Foxcroft, viewable from my living room windows. And I picked up a meatball parmigiana sandwich and an overfilled raspberry croissant from Abbott Village Bakery and Cafe to bring back to the apartment.

20161116_143830I’m already planning my December excursion to Hockomock Bay in Sagadahoc County with lunch or dinner at Taste of Maine Restaurant in Woolwich, which, I am told, features secret recipes, deliciously fresh seafood and incomparable views. I can see the views and taste the delicacies from the sea already.

THOUGHT TO REMEMBER: Our God is faithful … you can’t let people, places and things get in the way of your relationship with Him.

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Happy Birthday, Sweetheart … From the End Zone

karen sleeveHappy Birthday, Sweetheart. You caught up to me again!

Actually, I’m writing this in advance since birthday day I will be en route to Washington, DC {okay, Landover, MD} to take in the Packers-Redskins game with one of your clones, Cole. As much as I cherish the time with the turncoat Skins fan, I’ll be missing and thinking about you.

Birthdays were never really “special” for us, especially as we meandered into emptying the nest. Baubles and beads were replaced with twosome events — concerts, movies, dinner, weekend trips and even some football games tossed in. On your last birthday on earth, we  trekked to Buffalo in the snow and sleet to watch the Browns {one of your favorite football teams, the other being Green Bay} lose to the Bills. Birthdays evolved into an event meant for the two of us.

5 year oldI miss that.

I wish I could tell you a hundred times {okay, maybe not a hundred, but a lot} how much I love and loved you. Love, like in respect and appreciation and unfailing. I still do that even though our conversations are one-sided and through a bronze veil.

I was privileged to watch you grow up from an 18 year old siren to a strong, passionate, loving, caring, compassionate and grounded wife and mother {and grandmother}. That was the future I envisioned when I first saw that scrawny girl way back when. I believed in you … and you believed in me.

engagement pixYou had an incredible passion for life, although your early experiences growing up often quelled that fire. You were realistic … I was and still am the dreamer. You saw the glass half empty … I saw it half full. You were prone to worry … I was and still am aloof.

It was precisely this disparity, I think, that made our marriage work. Very few times in our 40 years together were we both approaching life’s situations the same way … or as you would fondly say, “right brain … left brain.” It was your realism that tempered my dreams, just as much as it was my aloofness that quieted — I hope — your fears. We never really decided whether the glass was half full or half empty. Instead we both became grateful we had a glass at all.

ringI wish things were different. I wish you were still here with me physically and  enjoying this football game in the brisk night. I miss teasing you and being teased by you. I miss your smile and even your occasional grumpiness — especially in the dawn’s early light. But, it’s not. Life has a way of changing expectations.

I can tell you, you haven’t aged a day. In fact, in my mind’s eye, you have become more beautiful — if that was at all possible. That’s why I can still say:

With all my love, Happy, Happy Birthday … For all our Yesterdays … Today … Tomorrow … and throughout Eternity.

THOUGHT TO REMEMBER: Don’t sit on the sidelines of life intimidated, thinking you’re unqualified. When you give God what you have, He’ll multiply it.

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Five Minute Friday — Enjoy

What a busy time! But I still had to carve out five minutes to join with Kate Motaung and the Five Minute Friday crew for this week’s exercise in timed, keyword-driven writing.  The word this week is ENJOY.

After the exercise, I’ll join my multi-talented sisters and brothers at Kate’s place (http://katemotaung.com/2016/11/17/five-minute-friday-enjoy-special-guest-giveaway/) to share, encourage and gain new perspectives on the prompt word. It’s really a blast … and it is so simple to do. Just let the words jettison from the recesses of your mind through the fingers and onto the screen. We would love to have you join us!

The timer has been set, so I guess it’s time to GO …

Let’s face it, most days are pretty, well, ordinary. We get up, go through whatever routine we have, work, {or in many of my friends’ cases, do laundry, cook, clean and wipe up after toddlers}. It’s all pretty unspectacular.

There are moments that stand out. They’re etched in our memory bank, never to be forgotten and to be re-lived at just the right moment down the road. You know, those vacations, that special trip, the anniversaries and birthdays, life’s milestones.

But for the rest of the time, it’s pretty ordinary. But that doesn’t mean those times have to be unenjoyable.

It took me awhile to realize it — and perhaps I never said it enough — but it was the little, unexpected incidents that made the whole day enjoyable. I mean, little … like stopping my wife mid-step to give her a kiss or catching her with a basketful of laundry and twirling her around the floor or just reaching over while watching television and holding her hand … STOP

… And it was reciprocal. I can’t tell you the number of times I “found” a little “I Love You” note among the bills or mail or how she would spontaneously massage my neck in the office or surprise me with a freshly baked muffin and cup of coffee in the middle of the afternoon or stopped me mid-step and stared at me nose-to-nose until blurting out “Made you blink” followed by a quick kiss.

Those exceptionable, spontaneous moments set or changed the tone of the ordinary day. And I can’t tell you how enjoyable those moments became.

Enjoy the ordinary … they often become extraordinary moments that are even more enjoyable.

THOUGHT TO REMEMBER: All of your days have already been written in God’s book. When you go through a disappointment, don’t stop on that page. Stay the course. Keep believing. You may be tired, discouraged and frustrated, but don’t give up on your future. Our God is faithful

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