An Important Contact

I mentioned I am trying to give the blog a mini-makeover. I have been tweaking some design elements with the help of my family and friends and have consolidated the categories. I’m still working on the graphics to accompany those categories, if it is possible.

But the biggest new emphasis is to make the blog more interactive. On the top bar {and I believe to the right if you’re not a follower yet} there is a “Contact Me” button. I hope it becomes your best friend as you navigate around the site.

The reason for the new emphasis is because I don’t want this venue to be one-sided. My vision is to use the platform to become a clearinghouse for sharing, caring and, most important, prayer.

Two of the proposed changes — which I hope to implement beginning Dec. 30 — include your input. The first, Joys and Concerns, is just that … your joys and concerns. It will be anchored on Thursdays and can be as specific or as general as you want. Those petitions will be part of the second change — Prayer, Care, Share — which will anchor on Saturdays. The petitions you bring will be brought to the Lord during my prayer requests … and I hope other readers will include them in theirs as well as they lay down petitions on the Sunday altar.

I also invite readers to share a blog post or thought with us as part of our outreach. I’ll choose one to “share” during our Prayer, Care, Share time each week and link others along with the joys and concerns.

We’ll see how this works out as we move forward. I’m not sure how much of a voice I have in the world, but whatever it is, I want it to reflect the Light … always. And I would really love to have you along for the ride.

Our Father in heaven, hallowed be Your name, Your kingdom come, Your will be done on earth as it is in heaven…

THOUGHT TO REMEMBER: Don’t be a church hopper. Listen to God and then plant yourself.

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Five Minute Friday — Deep

It seems like a good time to tackle this week’s Five Minute Friday exercise.

I encourage you to join in the festivities by joining us at Kate’s spot on Facebook at http://www.fiveminutefriday.com. It’s really simple. Watch for the prompt, write for five minutes, share your post and get ready to enjoy what the other talented writers have co

To entice you to check us out, I’ve also been sharing some of the experiences my fellow writers have shared as chronicled in Five Minute Friday: A Collection of Stories Written in Five Minutes Flat. This week, I’ll include words contributed by LeeAnn. I hope her words inspire you to join our writing club.

“The Five Minute Friday community is where I found ‘my people’ online. Late night Twitter parties with strangers turned into chatting weekly with friends. During the Five Minute Friday Retreat, the environment felt more like a gathering of long lost friends, not a group of ladies meeting for the first time. I’m so thankful for God’s gift of friendship through this group!”

There you go. The prompt this week is DEEP. My contribution is a little darker than usual, but the prompt prompted these thoughts. The timer is set so it is time to GO…

I looked deep into her eyes, deep enough to see her soul. This time, I saw the pain ravaging her body. I saw how it was affecting her soul, which was on its final journey on this earth.

Looking deep into her eyes was something I did often. As I gazed deep into the soft brown eyes when we were first married, I saw the giddiness in her soul. When I gazed into her eyes after each childbirth, I saw the accomplishment in her soul. When I gazed into her eyes during troubled times, I saw the conflicts raging in her soul. When I gazed in her eyes during the good and special times, I saw peace in her soul, especially after the arrival of our grandchildren. Before she got sick, I gazed deep into her eyes and saw contentment.

But this time was different. It was as if all those … STOP

emotions were alternately swirling in her soul. She was battling her hardest battle … and I was helpless. After talking for awhile, sharing our ups and downs as husband and wife, she confided she was tired of hurting. All I could muster was to tell her when she was ready, just go. Our Lord is waiting.

About 60 hours later, she opened her eyes and took her last breath.

As I gazed deeply into those bright brown eyes through tear-clouded eyes, I saw grace and dignity at its finest. There was no apprehension. There was no tension in her hands.

It may not be scientifically nor theologically true, but I believe her eyes opened to the glory of eternity as she saw her Lord and Savior come with open arms to embrace her and bring her to the Father.

My prayer is when those around me look deeply into my eyes when it is time to join her, I have that same peace, grace and dignity.

THOUGHT TO REMEMBER: Volunteer somewhere at least once a month.

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Your Thoughts

I sent out my weekly Words for the Week Monday to family and friends. To my surprise, the jury is out whether the sweet sentiment was uplifting or a bust. So, I’ll share it with you for your thoughts.

One of the Nicest Birthday Presents

“Perhaps because of my Navy training, punctuality has been almost an obsession. Rosalynn has always been adequately punctual, except by my standards. A deviation of five minutes or less in our departure time would cause a bitter exchange.

“One morning I realized it was Rosalynn’s birthday and I hadn’t brought her a present. What could I do that would be special for her? I hurriedly wrote a note: ‘Happy birthday! As proof of my love, I will never make an unpleasant comment about tardiness.’ I signed it and delivered it in an envelope, with a kiss.

“More than four years later, I still keep my promise. It has turned out to be one of the nicest birthday presents for Rosalynn — and for me.” (Quoted in Reader’s Digest, July 1989)

I thought it was sweet … a man making a promise to his wife — and keeping it for four years.

My friends had a different take. The women who commented tended to think the guy was a jerk for forgetting his wife’s birthday {good point}. One said it ended up being a sweet gesture — especially since he kept his promise — but added, “A little bling wouldn’t have hurt.”

One guy said he would never get away with a promissory note. Another just texted back a series of laughing emojis. There were no thumbs up … but quite a few thumbs down.

So, it appears my inspirational words for the week this week was a dud. I guess you win some and you lose some.

What do you think?

THOUGHT TO REMEMBER: Give more than is required.

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Five Minute Friday: Value

Time for Five Minute Friday. You know what that means. I’ll write for five focused minutes  on a specific prompt, then get together and share with my fellow writers at Kate’s spot on Facebook at http://www.fiveminutefriday.com.

To entice you to check us out, I’ve also been sharing some of the experiences my fellow writers have shared as chronicled in Five Minute Friday: A Collection of Stories Written in Five Minutes Flat. This week, I’ll include the words contributed by Carol. I hope her words inspire you to join our writing club.

“I’ve been blogging for just over six months. Before deciding to join the burgeoning ranks of aspiring bloggers, my knowledge and experience of computer technology was quite basic and I’d totally shunned social media. So what do I decide to do? I set up not one, but two blogs! Realizing that I needed to extend my connections, I considered getting involved with some kind of blogging event. However, it had to be the right type — one that complimented my blog’s focus on prayer and victorious living and which would not be time-consuming. FMF seemed ideal. The writing event is flexible, consists of a brief (five minute) free-write session and facilitates peer feedback. One of my blog followers, who is a regular participant, commended FMF members as a caring and supportive community. All in all, FMF offers me a win-win solution.”

There you go. The prompt this week is VALUE and the timer is set so it is time to GO…

There are two ways to evaluate the word value. One is its worth or the worth of something to us. The second is the principle. I think the two are intertwined.

Our value define our values … or … our beliefs define what we perceive is worth for us.

That’s probably the way it should be. We should establish our values — our principles — first. Then we can affirm what is of value to us.

Let me give a quick example. If we feel personal property or gain is an underlying tangible value, it could color our principles. In contrast, if we ascribe to the theory we are just pilgrims on this earthy journey awaiting another greater adventure for eternity, then the material possessions of the world are of less import.

I think, all too often, in today’s world, the balance is backwards. Often, people are looking at the here and now as their ultimate value … STOP

I personally don’t need fame or fortune {I wouldn’t turn them down, however, just consider it a bonus}. I’m content with what I have and don’t have. The one value I do covet is knowing I have value to my Maker. Of that, I am sure.

THOUGHT TO REMEMBER: Be generous with all things — time, talent and treasure.

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Giving Thanks in 2018

When you look around, you might sense there is less to be thankful about than usual as we approach the close of 2018.

It’s a natural feeling. We’re winding down, but there are still too many families separated by war. Divisions are causing havoc in the country almost to the point where we can’t have a civil conversation. The economy is improving but we all know someone still struggling paycheck to paycheck – or even worse – without a viable job. There are still too many people living at or below poverty. Our youth continue to literally be under siege – staring at experimentation and exploitation of seemingly uncontrolled drugs, unbridled sex, wanton violence and unparalleled peer pressure … all at a younger and younger age. Our families are under attack. Our morals – what’s left of them in an increasingly immoral world – are constantly challenged. There is still too much racial, cultural and class intolerance.

Life continues to be tough for families and children, for employees and employers, for church and state. Life changed after the senselessness of Sept. 11 and even after 17 years, it’s aftermath is one of gratuitous acts of violence and the ever-present threat of terrorism home and abroad.Those with family in the military feel a certain anxiousness that could dampen the holidays.

But that’s not the right feeling … not the true meaning of the Thanksgiving tradition.

Despite the problems within and without our own little circles, there is a lot to give thanks for this Thanksgiving Day. Above all, we thank God for our very lives and the lives of all we touch and who touch us. That inter-connection itself is wider than you might imagine.

Most of us this Thanksgiving will gather with family and/or friends around the table. We’ll continue the tradition started by the Pilgrims in 1621 … one that is more than turkey and stuffing … one that includes praise, thanksgiving, sharing and caring.

Thanksgiving is more than a day off to share with family and friends, sample the stuffing before the bird reaches the table or munch on leftovers while watching football games on television. It’s a day to look inward as well as outward … a day to recognize we still have much to be thankful for, despite all the problems in our nation and world.

It is truly a day for Thanksgiving.

THOUGHT TO REMEMBER: Be a tourist in your own city for the day.

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Happy, Happy Birthday Sweetheart

It never gets any easier hitting milestones without you. And, of course, this is another milestone for you, my dear wife. Happy, Happy Birthday!

While we were never big on splashy birthday parties, especially after the kids were grown. But we did celebrate quietly, marking each birthday with a special dinner and maybe some weekend plans. For the past 10 years, we didn’t even get that.

I dug out some old birthday cards you had saved. This struck a chord. It means as much today as it did the year I first gave it to you. If you saved it, it must have had an impact on you as well.

A Birthday Wish For My Wife

When there’s a word you love to hear, then LOVE will know it.

When there is comfort to be offered, LOVE will show it.

When there is a way of giving cheer, then LOVE will find it.

For so often when we’re happy, LOVE‘s behind it.

G.W. Douglas

For all the ways you showed your love, I love you very much.

HAPPY BIRTHDAY

Yesterday …

… Today …

… Tomorrow and Through Eternity.

THOUGHT TO REMEMBER: Remember, a little love goes a long way and a lot … goes forever.

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Saturday with Santa

I woke up Saturday morning, stretched and headed downstairs. Angelina beat me down and started barking like a crazy dog. So I rushed to the kitchen to find Santa standing there with his finger up his round, snowy white beard shushing Angelina. Angelina immediately stopped barking and started wagging her tail.

I squinted my eyes and said, “Santa?”

“Good morning, Joe,” he answered.

“Santa?” I repeated. “What are you doing here?”

“I was in the neighborhood and thought I’d stop by and say hi. Hi!”

The questions swirled in my mind as the jolly old elf handed me a cup of coffee {yes, he brewed the coffee}. “How did you know I was here? Why are you here?”

“I know where everyone is,” he quipped with a smile.

“But how did you know I would be here?

“I follow you on social media. I knew you were launching your  book — congratulations, by the way, the first one was a real keeper — so I figured I’d drop by.”

“The launch is Sunday. How did you know I wasn’t on the road today?”

“Because when I was up in Maine doing a dry run yesterday, I noticed your car wasn’t in the parking lot. I figured you headed down … and I was right! Here you are!”

“Okay, okay, but why are you here?” I asked.

“Duh, what do I do on the Saturday before Thanksgiving?”

“How could I forget. You make an appearance at the old St. Mary’s School Bazaar up in Waterloo. And somehow I always get sucked into your schemes.”

Santa reached into his velvety red coat, pulled out a list and made a check on it “Sucked into my schemes, not on the good side,” he mused.

“Okay, we know what you’re doing here, but what are you doing HERE?”

“I need your help,” he blurted out.

“Again?”

“Yes, smarty, again.”

“Parking issues like last year?”

“No, not really. The sleigh is parked in the back forty.”

“Okay…” I offered with animated hands.

“It needs some work.”

“What do you mean it needs some work?”

“Well, I brought some of the understudies with me to scope the area. I figured with the fresh snow, it would be a good time to practice some landings and take-offs with them …”

I interrupted, “and they crashed the sleigh.”

“No, no. No. No! They did very well.”

“Okay?”

“It seems on one of the landings, the mute pedal got tangled in some slush-covered brush and dropped from the bracket on the underbelly of the sleigh.”

“The mute pedal?”

“Yeah,” he responded. “It’s the piece that puts me in stealth mode so I don’t wake everybody up.”

“Okay, but how does this affect me?”

“Well it just happened up the road. What a clatter! What a clatter!” he offered. “Luckily I spotted your car, so I figured I would drop by and see if you could give me a lift.”

“Well, sure, I guess so,” I sheepishly said, not wanting any more check marks on the bad side of the ledger.

“Besides,” Santa said. “We always have such a good time together.”

That’s true. Although I wouldn’t admit it, I look forward to meeting up with the big guy before Christmas. I’ve been meeting him on and off for years. One year he got lost when his new GPS put him on Route 96A instead of Route 96. Another year he tracked me down in St. Thomas. And still another he ran into some sleigh trouble, just like this year. And he was right. Our visits were always fun and exciting with good conversation. And you know, you do have to stay on his good side.

“What about the sleigh?” I asked.

“What about it?”

“You just can’t leave it here.”

“I won’t. Called AAA North Pole and they’re sending some elves down to fix it. The last message from them was the elves should be here around 10 and it should be ready to take flight by noon.”

“That’s pretty quick, won’t it take longer?”

Santa stroked his beard for a moment, then said, “No. Elfin magic.”

“Elfin magic,” I repeated shaking my head as I went back upstairs to get ready.

On the ride to the bazzaar, Santa asked me if I was getting in the Christmas spirit”

“I’m trying,” I stammered. “I mean I’ve been watching some Christmas movies…”

“Hallmark, right?”

“Yeah, how did you know?”

Of course I got that look. “The best part of Hallmark movies is you can fall asleep during them and know what happened,” he roared with his belly shaking like a bowlful of jelly.

That brought a smile to my face. “I’ve done that a time or two.”

He continued laughing, “I know.”

Then he got a little serious. “Too often people miss the whole point of Christmas!”

“Ahhh, oookay,”

He continued, “Christmas isn’t glitter and glitz. Christmas is a feeling, an attitude. And it shouldn’t just dwell in you at Christmas. It should dwell in you each and every day of the year. Christmas is joy. Remember what that is? Christmas is wonder. Are you so old you forgot what that is?  It’s a celebration of the birth of Jesus the Christ.  It’s a time to celebrate His birth … the remarkable beginning of a life lived and sacrificed for you and me. Christ is the reason for the season. And that Love should dwell in us … not just during the Christmas season but every day.”

Of course he was right, and I saw him put that Love in action as he meandered through the auditorium and classrooms and ramps wishing every vendor, every patron a hearty “Merry Christmas!” He would stop if there was a child present to talk to them as if they were the only two people in the room. And by child I mean from two months old to two months past their 39th birthday.

I saw that Love in action as he settled in at his special spot. I watched the twinkle in his eyes as he read stories — The Christmas Eve Tree, The Snow Tree, One Maine Christmas Eve, How Santa Claus Got His Job, Guess Who’s Coming to Santa’s for Dinner?, Christmas on an Island and The Night Before Christmas. I saw the magic and awe and joy and excitement and wonder as the little ones shared a secret toy request with him. I saw the pure innocent Love dwelling in him as he answered their questions, gently reminding them the holidays are “family” time and a time for celebration.

I saw him laugh and I saw the children laugh and I thought to myself, “Man. He has this down right.”

THOUGHT TO REMEMBER: Become a mentor.

 

 

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Launch Time

The formal launch of Wisdom From a Father is now history. It made its sort of debut on a snowy Sunday afternoon in Seneca County, NY, and on line at facebook.com/wisdomfromafather/

Wisdom From a Father. That’s a high bar and not to be confused with “Wisdom From the Father.” This is “a” like one of many, not “the” like the head honcho, the Big Guy.

Now that we have that settled, let’s talk about the book. But before I do, I’m going to share – what else? – a story with you.

Waaay back in the ‘70s when I was a newby production manager at a newspaper/printing house in Illinois, I came across a promotional piece from Kodak. It was a slick, full color piece featuring vibrant Easter eggs in a colorful basket. Kodak was asking newspapers to incorporate the artwork in an ad, with cash prizes going to newspapers of various sizes for their presentation.

Hmmm, I thought. Why not participate?

So, when we had our production meeting, I asked the crew what they thought. But instead of using it in an ad, I reasoned we could make a statement with a front page presentation. Skepticism is probably the best word to describe the idea. Lukewarm might be another.

It was explained to me – remember I was relatively new to the position – it couldn’t be done. You see, we had just four units on the press and traditionally, each color would take up a unit – black, cyan, magenta and yellow. The most we could run would be four pages, hardly worth the effort, even for a Saturday when we usually ran an eight page, all black ink paper.

I listened and moved on. After the meeting, I left the   slick promotional piece on the conference table.

Later in the day, when I went into the conference room, the piece was missing. And the next day, Andy, my lead pressman, walked into my office and asked me if I had a minute. We walked toward the press and Andy proceeded to explain how we COULD print an eight page paper with full color. Complete with animation, he described how, by re-wrapping the rolls, we might be able to print the yellow on the fountain of one unit, wrap the roll to pick up the magenta off the other fountain of the same unit, then pick up the cyan and black, thus using just two units for the color instead of three. That freed one unit for the second black impression.

Of course, we never did it before, so we weren’t sure it would work. And in announcing our grand experiment, I remember writing a lead-in stating our “faces may be ruddy, ruddy red, but we’re hoping the colors will pop and we’ll be able to embark on a new era for the BDR.”

As the first paper came off the folder, the experiment worked but was out of register. Andy and his crew methodically adjusted the settings and within a few moments the color registered perfectly.

We didn’t win the contest, but we learned a lot about what could be done when we think collectively out of the box … when we were willing to take a chance. I was a winner because it showed my production crew I trusted them. Through the years we worked through challenges – not as boss-employee, but together as a team.

I thought of that story as I prepared for this launch. Unfortunately, my face is “ruddy, ruddy red”. Wisdom From a Father is a no-show. I was expecting delivery Thursday, but my grandson tells me the shipment of hard copies is sitting in my living room in Maine, delivered Saturday. Forty-eight hour printing turnaround apparently doesn’t include transit – especially to the Maine Highlands — which tacked on an additional few days.

So, first bit of wisdom from a father. That’s life. And this is just another challenge to be dealt with.

I dedicated the book to my children. Through the years, they gave me reams of material to share – and some better off not shared. They have always given me their love and support. For that, I will forever be grateful.

I am also proud of the cover, which features a photo I took of Marshall Point Lighthouse in Port Clyde, ME. The long planks hopefully invite readers to the lighthouse and, in turn, to open the book and choose their own path and pace. The type — Edwardian Script — was chosen to be personal and intimate. The combination blends the illumination, resilience and comfort of the lighthouse with words that hopefully guide, build inner strength and give hope.

The text in Wisdom From a Father deals precisely with the unpredictabilities of life – the twists, the turns, the highs, the lows, the struggles and the glory. The essays are down-home reflections on life, love and family.

There are joys. There are tribulations. There are reflections. There is every day life. In each essay I try to reflect a greater Power who colors my perspective and show His extraordinary presence in the ordinary. My comments are always filtered through the lens of my Judeo-Christian values and largely based on 40 years of marriage raising five children. All were written from my heart, sometimes seriously and sometimes with a touch of humor.

There are 52 essays in Wisdom From a Father. They are independent, so they can be read any way you choose – sequentially, randomly, in a few sittings, once a week. Topics range from Conversations with God and Because He Lives to The Silly Season and The Game of Life. It includes a few book reviews, remembering 9/11 and Amazing Grace. Some of the essays are dated – I refer to the presidential race between Barack Obama and Mitt Romney – but with universal insights. It is liberally sprinkled with anecdotes from life with Karen and five kids. And each essay ends with the signature Thought To Remember.

Look for the extraordinary in the ordinary … every day!

Wisdom From a Father is available at Amazon as both a paperback and e-book.

Just as a reminder, this my second venture into the world of book publishing. I released a novella, Heaven Shining Through, last March. The novella has been receiving mostly solid 4-5 stars and positive reviews. It remains available online at Amazon and Barnes and Noble, and is listed at GoodReads.

I’m also offering a special Christmas promotion — a copy of both Wisdom From a Father and Heaven Shining Through (a $9.99 value) for $20.00 plus tax. Drop me an e-mail at wisdomfromafather@gmail.com if you’re interested in a signed copy of either book or both.

THOUGHT TO REMEMBER: Share your knowledge with others.

 

 

 

 

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Five Minute Friday — One

I’m not making an excuse although I forewarned you I might not make a Friday post since I was on the road all day Friday and visiting with Santa earlier today. But, since I do like to participate in the exercise, here we are. After I post, I’ll get together and share with my fellow writers at Kate’s spot on Facebook at http://www.fiveminutefriday.com.

To entice you to check us out, I’ve also been sharing some of the experiences my fellow writers have shared as chronicled in Five Minute Friday: A Collection of Stories Written in Five Minutes Flat. This week, I’ll include the words contributed by Sabrina. I hope her words inspire you to join our writing club.

“FMF has made me stop making excuses and just write. Pick a word, realize how it moves me and spend five minutes without letting my fingers come off the keys. Five minutes of clearing my head because all of my focus is on the word. But, most importantly, FMF always aligns with how I am feeling and I feel like it is the universe’s way of telling me to stop or move or breathe. It is the final straw that I finally listen to.”

There you go. The prompt for the week is ONE. The timer is set, so it’s time to GO…

As I was driving Friday thinking about our prompt, I kept coming back to Jesus’ second coming. No, I wasn’t focused on the tribulation, rapture or people being left behind. Instead, I was think about Jesus’ reaction when He graces us with His presence again.

I can’t help but wonder if Jesus will wonder why He came in the first place. His simple message, His sole purpose has been twisted, interpreted and diluted, seemingly before His grave was even empty.

In the 2,000 years since, His message continues to erode. New doctrines and practices have replaced older ones. The singular command — love one another — seems to have gotten lost as followers fragment to follow the teaching of apostolic hierarchy, others reformists, others charismatics, others from store-front preachers who often have ordained themselves with titles.

Let’s get one thing straight. There is only one savior, … STOP

Jesus the Christ. There is only one way to heaven, through Jesus the Christ. And yet …

Almost since day one, we’ve been trying to rewrite the laws to fit our needs. We’ve been trying to show the “how” to heaven instead of the “why” and “who”. Read more. Study more. Attend more. Give more.

Jesus didn’t come the first time to give us a lesson plan. He came as a gift and a bridge to bring us sinners back into fellowship with God. Love one another … By this all will know that you are My disciples — the greatest command (John 13:34-35).

Love is a verb, an action. So, don’t tell me you’re a Baptist. Don’t preach about your mainline religions. Don’t dictate your Catholic doctrines. Don’t charismatically talk about the future.

Instead, reflect the light of Jesus. If we call ourselves Christians, followers of the Christ, we must love one another — not just our friends and neighbors, but all we come into contact with from various ethnic, religious or lifestyle backgrounds. Love one another — not by doing things for them or preaching to them, but by showing them our Jesus from our heart, from our soul. As Francis of Assisi said, you might be the only sermon some persons will hear today.

I wonder if Jesus will wonder why His followers are not one in communion with Him and each other. I wonder if Jesus will wonder if denominations are fluff. I wonder if Jesus will wonder how the rigidity of the Law returned so quickly.

I wonder what Jesus will wonder when He returns.

My prayer reflect the words Jesus prayed, that all may be one. And I add, may it start with me.

THOUGHT TO REMEMBER: Don’t gossip. Period.

 

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Retirement … Sweet Retirement

It’s been approximately 16 months since I stopped punching the time clock {actually, I haven’t punched a time clock since the early summer jobs of my youth, but I digress} and stepped into “retirement.” It has been quite an experience — all in a good way. I should have done it, say, 50 years ago.

The best part about “retirement” is you get to pick and choose what activities to get involved in and what events you wish to attend. The hardest part of retirement is adjusting to a fixed income.

I was reflecting on the past 16 months however, and discovered my free spirit never got the memo. I have immersed myself in “me” work and “me” connections that has kept me as busy as I wish to be.

In the community, I became active at Dover-Foxcroft (ME) United Methodist Church, where I was named a co-lay leader and sometimes pulpit supply {something I enjoy doing}. I was also named church representative on the Dover-Foxcroft Area Food Cupboard board, dealing with the ever-growing food insecurities in Piscataquis County (https://www.dfafc.com/).

I started attending TIP (Thriving in Place) meetings to deal with local issues of interest t seniors, which morphed into Senior Commons involvement at the newly refurbished Commons at Central Hall (http://www.centralhallcommons.org/). As part of programming at the Senior Commons, I taught my first class, Take the Fear Out of Writing. Although the six week class has ended, we will gather together later this month to compare and conjoin the individual short stories produced by the class.

I have also been a fairly regular fixture at community events such as the weekly community dinner, Community Cafe and AARP Coffee Talk. The food {yes, I don’t have to cook!} is always tasty and the fellowship has led to new friendships in a community I’ve called home for just over a year {actually, it’s three years, but I was an upstate New York to Maine commuter for the first two years}.

I also rejoined Kiwanis International, Dover-Foxcroft Chapter. I was a Kiwanian back in the 70s in Illinois and 90s in New York. In a moment of weakness (?) or because of the 6:30 a.m. meeting time, I agreed to be appointed vice president when the vice president relocated to New Jersey. Of course, vice president means this year I’m president-elect and next year (2019-20) I’ll assume the president’s role.

On a personal note, I published not one, but two books in retirement. The first — a novella, Heaven Shining Through — was published last March and has been met with solid reviews. The second — Wisdom From a Father — will be formally released Sunday (Nov. 18) to coincide with a book launch at 1 p.m. at West Fayette (NY) Presbyterian Church. The book features a series of reflective essays based

Wisdom From a Father is a reflective look at life, love and family, segmented into chapters. The words are updates of posts made on this blog, wisdomfromafather.wordpress.com. All 52 essay chapters are written from the heart, sometimes seriously and sometimes with a touch of humor.

The cover features a photo of Marshall Point Lighthouse in Port Clyde, ME. The long planks hopefully invite readers to the lighthouse and, in turn, to open the book and choose their own path and pace. The type — Edwardian Script — was chosen to be personal and intimate. The combination blends the illumination, resilience and comfort of the lighthouse with words that hopefully guide, build inner strength and give hope.

Of course, my wanderlust has kept me on the road a bit as well.

Before the ink was dry on the transfer of ownership of Reveille/Between the Lakes, I was on the road for our annual grandchildren gathering. This year, there were 12 of us — myself, my chaperones, grandkids DJ, Timothy, Karly, Ella, Kaydee and Gavin and adopted granddaughter Abbi. We called Circle B Campground in Angola, IN, our almost week-long home. But the adventure included a trip to Albanese Candy in Merrillville (the other side of the state, almost Illinois), the Indiana Dunes, Yogi Bear’s Jellystone Park in Fremont and the Black Pine Animal Sanctuary in Albion. Yeah, from my Maine location, that’s about 1,076 miles — stretched a little further because we zig zagged through the back roads of Indiana — each way. Loved every mile!

Then there was the December to Remember. There were so many memories packed into the 25 day, 5,267.3 mile trip to New York, Ohio, Indiana, Kentucky, South Carolina, North Carolina, Florida, Georgia, Tennessee, West Virginia, New Jersey and Massachusetts. The blessing for the entire trip was no major incidents … just pure enjoyment with family and friends. Thank you Jesus! While those states are where Angelina and I rested our heads, we also traveled through Canada, Pennsylvania, Maryland, Connecticut and New Hampshire before rolling into the parking lot back in Maine. I visited each of my five children; took in two pro {Green Bay} football games {in Cleveland with grandsons and Carolina with oldest and youngest sons}; visited with long-lost cousins in Ohio and Indiana; finally visited the Studebaker National Museum in South Bend, IN, and National Corvette Museum in Bowling Green, KY; traveled to Florida to spend some time with my childhood friend, Bernie; spent a spectacular Christmas Eve in Nashville, TN, with my oldest son, taking a walk around Gaylord Opryland Resort (about three hours worth) and the Ice Show (Charlie Brown Christmas) including a turn down the ice tube and capping it off with dinner and Diamond Rio; and spent some time at the Jersey shore {including a visit with Bernie’s mom in Toms River, NJ}. Whew!

After a week of “rest” I was back on the road for a mini reunion in Paterson, NJ, with Don Bosco Tech classmates, Class of ’65.

After Heaven Shining Through was released, I embarked on a May mini book tour, making presentations to the library here in Dover-Foxcroft, and the five libraries in Seneca County, NY. And it was a whirlwind! Six presentations in nine days.

A four day stay in the hospital for a bout with cellulitis disrupted June plans for attending my granddaughter’s graduation, but I made it back to New York for three meet and greets in September in upstate New York.

Retirement? It’s been a blast!

THOUGHT TO REMEMBER: Love people more than they deserve.

 

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