Midweek Mirth

One of the misconceptions about being a Christian is non-Christians think we don’t know how to have fun or have a sense of humor. Trust me, if the Big Guy can have a sense of humor when it comes to dealing with us mere mortals, so can we.

The difference for Christians is we don’t have to debase ourselves or others to generate a smile. Laughter at life or ourselves is a gift from God.

It’s time for some Midweek Mirth so let’s smile a little!

What Is Love?

A group of professional people posed this question to a group of 4-8 year olds, What does love mean?” The answers they got were broader and deeper than anyone could have imagined. See what you think:

“When my grandmother got arthritis, she couldn’t bend over and paint her toenails anymore so my grandfather does it for her all the time, even when his hands got arthritis too. That’s love.” Rebecca – age 8.

“When someone loves you, the way they say your name is different. You know that your name is safe in their mouth.” Billy – age 4

“Love is when a girl puts on perfume and a boy puts on shaving cologne and they go out and smell each other.” Karl – age 5

“Love is when you go out to eat and give somebody most of your French fries without making them give you any of theirs.” Chrissy – age 6

“Love is what makes you smile when you’re tired.” Terri – age 4

“Love is when my mommy makes coffee for my daddy and she takes a sip before giving it to him, to make sure the taste is okay.” Danny – age 7

“Love is when you kiss all the time. Then when you get tired of kissing, you still want to be together and you talk more. My Mommy and Daddy are like that.” Emily – age 8

“Love is when you tell a guy you like his shirt, then he wears it every day.” Noelle – age 7

“Love is like a little old woman and a little old man who are still friends even after they know each other so well.” Tommy – age 6

“During my piano recital I was on a stage and I was scared. I looked at all the people watching me and saw my daddy waving and smiling. He was the only one doing that. I wasn’t scared anymore.” Cindy – age 8

“My mommy loves me more than anybody. You don’t see anyone else kissing me to sleep at night.” Clare – age 6

“Love is when Mommy gives Daddy the best piece of chicken.” Elaine – age 5

“Love is when Mommy sees Daddy smelly and sweaty and still says he is handsomer than Brad Pitt.” Chris – age 7

“I know my older sister loves me because she gives me all her old clothes and has to go out and buy new ones.” Lauren – age 5

“When you love somebody, your eyelashes go up and down and little stars come out of you.” Karen – age 7

“You really shouldn’t say ‘I love you’ unless you mean it. But if you mean it, you should say it a lot. People forget.” Jessica – age 7

“Love is what’s in the room with you at Christmas if you stop opening presents and listen.” Bobby – age 7

“If you want to learn to love better, you should start with a friend who you hate.” Nikka – age 6

“There are two kinds of love, our love and God’s love. But God makes both kinds of them.” Jenny – age 8

 And now for the bonus …

Quite A Show

To close each day’s activities in summer and on holidays in the Magic Kingdom at Walt Disney World, a huge fireworks display lights up the sky. One night a small boy about three years old was perched on his father’s shoulder. The child sat mesmerized, aware only of what was exploding above him in the heavens. When the fireworks were over, the little boy looked up into the sky again and said, “Thank you, God.”

THOUGHT TO REMEMBER: My great hope is to laugh as much as I cry; to get my work done and try to love somebody and have the courage to accept the love in return. — Maya Angelou

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It’s Your Camino

I am not a hiker. I have little interest in going on a pilgrimage. I have even less interest in going to Europe. So what attracted me to It’s Your Camino by Kenneth R. Strange Jr.?

Well, I promised Ken I would read it. And I was pleasantly surprised. It is a travelogue — and then some — of one couple’s 31-day journey along the Camino Trail from the  snow-capped Pyrenees in France to Galicia, a region in the northwestern corner of Spain in the Celtic region, filled with incredible ups and downs. You can feel the pain of walking almost 500 miles, experience the majesty of snow capped mountain vistas, share the camaraderie with fellow travelers, enjoy the humor and pathos of the trip, visit with shepherds with their flocks, see storks in church belfries, and finally feel the awe of little country churches to majestic cathedrals. It started with their first steps through the clocktower arch in the Basque village of Saint-Jean-Piedde-Port and was capped with a visit to the cathedral of Santiago de Compostela.

But it’s more than a travelogue. It is a once-in-a-lifetime, five star adventure made even more attractive because it included his wife and best friend, Aurora. It was their journey, not only in steps, but in self-awareness as well.

In his acknowledgments, Ken noted, “She’s [Aurora] had to listen to my half-baked plans about hiking the Camino for years until she finally threw up her arms and said, ‘Let’s just do it!'”

Ken is no stranger to hiking. As a kid, he often ventured to the edge of the beach, the end of the road, or to an opening in the forest. So it was natural his wanderlust included hiking the Adirondacks of New York, Sierra Nevada of California, volcanoes of Mexico, Rub Al Khali desert in Saudi Arabia, or the hill behind his house. During his life, these places have become his  refuge — places where he could reflect and listen to his heart. And what better place on earth to seek freedom and spiritual meaning than on the Camino.

Aurora, with her deep faith and love for the outdoors, was a perfect companion for the adventure. Ken readily admits it was not that easy to wake up every day and walk mile after mile with your spouse for 31 straight days. “It can test even the best relationship. But she is, above all, my best friend, and that is a solid foundation.”

The stories and interactions with their fellow pilgrims is worth the price of the book. Finding out what they were thinking, what motivated them to overcome the physical and mental challenges, to walk day in and day out, in the sun and in the rain, are part of the story within a story — compelling, inspiring, genuine. It was the people along the way — the pilgrims and non-pilgrims — who were “Their Camino” and inspired them every day: Russell and Lori, the blind couple from Minnesota; Frank, the 89 year old Basque cyclist, broken and battered but not defeated; and Karla, the Dutch woman who dreamed about the Camino and found the courage to strike out alone, an experience she found liberating. These were just a few. Each had a unique story to share, a deeply personal reason, or not, for walking to Compostela, something which compelled them either spiritually or for some other reason to endure the blisters, aches, rain, and fatigue.

Without them, the Camino is just another road meandering through Europe. It is their story too.

The reader will also vicariously share in the experience of visiting the many historic towns, villages, and cities along the Camino; tour medieval churches, castles, and cathedrals; and ponder Spanish history — El Cid, the Knights Templar, the haunting Spanish Civil War, and modern-day Spain.

Ken came to the Camino hoping to accomplish several goals: travel and discover the allure of Pamplona, lose weight, come up with enough material for a book, take a break from life, and perhaps, just maybe, learn something about himself. As he notes, “these goals revolved around me.”

But it ended differently. The Camino was greater than any one person’s personal goals or cutting another notch in a belt full of achievements. It was about putting oneself out there for other people — for one’s fellow pilgrims. It was no longer about me; it was about them.

He noted, “If I could translate something in Spanish for a fellow pilgrim, or put my arm around a young man to console him, or rescue a young Chinese girl on a mountain top, I did so willingly. When my wife tended to a Japanese woman’s blisters or gave advice on how to care for a college student’s injured knee, she did so with genuine love and concern. In telling this story about my brother and sister pilgrims, I learned more about humanity. And in learning more about humanity, I could better understand that my reason for living was to serve others.”

Ken never did find divine inspiration or discover the inner him. They didn’t lose weight (the contrary, thanks to a never-ending supply of custard flan from the Pilgrim’s Menu) or find love (I already had that). Instead, their journey on the Camino involved both the physical and the symbolic paths — the latter one of introspection and renewal so upon completion, they might be reborn with a newfound sense of inner peace.

Or as Ken sums it up, “If we learned anything, it was the Camino, like life, was a personal journey, a journey which was meant to help the traveler reflect upon the other world, breathe in the air, and wait in joyous expectation for what might be around the corner. It all seemed so simple.”

I still have no desire to hike or go on a pilgrimage, especially to Europe. But I know what Ken is talking about. Being on the road … traveling the back roads … stopping at off beat sites … taking in the mountain, valley, or ocean vistas … reflecting on life … breathing fresh air … waiting in joyous expectation for what might be around the corner. It really is that simple.

It’s Your Camino. Paperback: 192 pages; $14.95; Independently published (July 27, 2019); Language: English;ISBN-10: 1098837886;ISBN-13: 978-1098837884

Kindle: $6.99 before credits;File Size: 24806 KB; Sold by: Amazon.com Services;  Language: English; ASIN: B07VLTGM1H; Text-to-Speech: Enabled; Word Wise: Enabled; Lending: Enabled; Screen Reader: Supported; Enhanced Typesetting: Enabled.

THOUGHT TO REMEMBER: Very little is needed to make a happy life; it is all within yourself, in your way of thinking. — Marcus Aurelius

 

 

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Fishing for People

Dale Carnegie in his How to Win Friends and Influence People., shared this  thought. I felt it would  make an appropriate Words for the Week segment … with a slight addendum.

“I often went fishing up in Maine during the summer. Personally, I am very fond of strawberries and cream, but I have found that for some strange reason, fish prefer worms. So when I went fishing, I didn’t think about what I wanted. I thought about what they wanted. I didn’t bait the hook with strawberries and cream. Rather, I dangled a worm or grasshopper in front of the fish and said: ‘Wouldn’t you like to have that?'”

Why not use the same common sense when fishing for people?

THOUGHT TO REMEMBER: The only thing that will make you happy is being happy with who you are, and not who people think you are. — Goldie Hawn

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On the Road of Life

Here are my thoughts from today on the slanty side of the pulpit at Howland (ME) United Methodist Church

Lord, open our lips and our mouth will proclaim Your praise. Blessed are You, Creator of all, to You be praise and glory forever. As Your dawn renews the face of the earth bringing light and life to all creation, may we rejoice in this day You have made; as we wake refreshed from the depths of sleep, open our eyes to behold Your presence and strengthen our hands to do Your will, that the world may rejoice and give You praise. Blessed be God: Father, Son and Holy Spirit. Blessed be God forever.

The night has passed, and the day lies open before us; let us pray with one heart and mind. As we rejoice in the gift of this new day, so may the light of Your presence, O God, set our hearts on fire with love for You; now and forever. Amen.

May these words of my mouth and this meditation of my heart be pleasing in your sight, LORD, my Rock and my Redeemer.

Alice Grayson was to bake a cake for the Methodist Church Ladies Group bake sale in Tuscaloosa, but she forgot to do it until the last minute. She remembered it the morning of the bake sale, and after rummaging through cabinets she found an angel food cake mix and quickly made it while drying her hair and dressing and helping her son pack up for Scout camp. But when Alice took the cake from the oven, the center had dropped flat and the cake was horribly disfigured. Oh dear, she said, there’s no time to bake another cake.

This cake was so important to Alice because she did so want to fit in at her new church and in her new community of new friends. So, being inventive, she looked around the house for something to build up the center of the cake. Alice found it in the bathroom: a roll of toilet paper. She plunked it in and then covered it with icing. Not only did the finished product look beautiful, it looked perfect!

Before she left the house to drop the cake by the church and head for work, Alice woke her daughter Amanda and gave her some money, specific instructions to be at the bake sale the minute it opened at 9:30, buy this cake, and bring it home. When the daughter arrived at the sale, she found the attractive, perfect cake had already been sold! Amanda grabbed her cell phone and called her mother.

Alice was horrified. She was beside herself. Everyone would know! What would they think of her? She would be ostracized, talked about, ridiculed.

That night Alice was lying awake in bed thinking about people pointing their fingers at her and talking about her behind her back. The next day Alice promised herself she would try not to think about the cake, attend the fancy luncheon/bridal shower at the home of a friend of a friend, and try to have a good time there. She did not really want to attend because the hostess was a real snob who more than once had looked down her nose at Alice because she was a single parent and not from one of the founding families of Tuscaloosa. Having already RSVPed, she could not think of a believable excuse to stay away.

The meal was elegant, the company was definitely upper crust Old South. To Alice’s horror, the cake in question was presented for dessert!

Alice felt the blood drain from her body when she saw it being brought in. She started out of her chair to rush to the hostess and tell her all about it, but before she could get to her feet, the mayor’s wife said, “What a beautiful cake!”

Alice, who was still stunned, sat back in her chair when she heard the hostess (who was a prominent church member) say, “Thank you, I baked it myself.”

Alice smiled and thought to herself, “God is good.”

 

Okay. Okay. That’s the smile for the day. It’s time to get serious.

One of the precepts in the United Methodist Church is for elders and pastors to submit to the itineracy system, moving from church to church throughout their ministry. I think both you and I can relate to that.

You have had your share of faces behind the slanty side of the pulpit, including this Reformed/Presbyterian teaching elder. I think we are both stronger in our faith because of it. You have been empowered by a diversity in style and substance. I have been empowered by a diversity of congregations, from relatively small groups to larger gatherings, each with specific needs, all seeking wisdom, guidance, and sustenance from the Word. And while in the pew, I have worshiped in a variety of churches, denominational and non-denominational, large and small. I witnessed a similar diversity of style and substance, each, hopefully, contributing to my style and substance.

The UMC practice – similar to practices in other denominations – follows a Pauline viewpoint. Today’s first lectionary reading from I Corinthians 3 gives us a visceral understanding of the idea of servants together in fields of the Lord. Paul argues our attachments are often to the wrong things: to a human pastor, to a position, to a building. No pastor works in a vacuum, but builds on ministry and mission others directed long before arriving on the scene. And, that will continue long after the pastor departs.

Sometimes, the key to overcoming short-term conflict is taking a longer view. And God’s viewpoint stretches into eternity. You don’t get much longer than that. Paul was the epitome of the itinerant preacher, visiting and shepherding churches in Rome, Corinth, Galatia, Philippi, Thessalonia, Ephesus, Colossae, and small groups led by his disciples Philemon, Timothy, and Titus.

In today’s reading, Paul directly addresses the Corinthians’ divisions — and the assessments of themselves and their leaders upon which those divisions are based.

Paul opens his letter by saying he could not speak to the Corinthians as mature, spiritual people (3:1). He is not only telling them to grow up, he is also undercutting their misplaced self assessment as being particularly mature, particularly wise, particularly spiritual — super Christians!

Paul brings the Corinthians, and us, back to the simple measure of our life together. For as long as there is jealousy and quarreling among you, are you not of the flesh? (3:3). Paul argues at the heart of our Christian identity is our oneness in Christ. It might be worth exploring if we are willing to hold ourselves and our leaders up to this standard of maturity. Are we demanding an end to jealousy and quarreling?

In 1:21 Paul had contrasted God’s wisdom with the world’s by saying God saves by means of the belief that comes when people hear the word of the cross. Now, he urges the Corinthians to see both he and Apollos are servants through whom the Corinthians have come to such belief (3:5).

Notice how Paul has undermined their efforts to flock to one leader over another. Although worldly wisdom and God’s wisdom are antithetical concepts, he places both himself and his purported competitor Apollos on the side of God’s wisdom and the gospel. Rather than villainize Apollos, Paul insists the only way to rightly interpret the work of God in Corinth is to see both men have been working together, under God, to build the church.

Derek Weber  tells us Paul makes a shift at the end of our text for this week. He’s all about growing things, babies and milk and solid food; and then fields and planting and watering. But then at the very end, he throws in a building. It seems odd, until you go on reading. Verse nine is a metaphor hinge, or pivot. He swings from one to the other. It’s a great technique; it keeps you from getting bogged down on one image that can’t carry the weight of the argument alone. But it works or works well only when there is at least one common element of both images. In this case, there are many, but the one Paul seemed to emphasize is they are both labor intensive.

Well, maybe that wasn’t his most important element. Maybe he was really more concerned about the progressive nature of the metaphors. They built or grew; they developed along the way. The starting place was not the ending place; the originating state was not the ending state. However you want to describe it, Paul was stressing there was more to come. And he wants you to grow. He wants the church in Corinth to grow, certainly. That’s why he is writing. Finally, a pastoral letter that says, “Stop acting like children!” How many pastors have wanted to write such a thing? Here it is.

Paul goes back to the beginnings in Corinth, remembers when he first arrived and there was so much he wanted to say, but couldn’t because they were infants in Christ. But he met them where they were, feeding them milk, the “abc’s” of the faith, knowing they would progress to more substantial matters. Even now, he argues, they are still not ready, because they are acting like, well, children, quarreling, being jealous.

Here is a good description of what Paul means when he speaks of being in the flesh. It isn’t necessarily a specific sin or types of sin. But it is doing that which hinders the growth of faith in the individual or the community. These selfish behaviors, even if done for good reasons, are of the flesh because they work against the common heart and mind of the body focused on the mission of the church.

So, then he turns back to the dividing issue as he sees it: this allegiance thing. Would it be fair to say his response is basically, we don’t have time for that? Maybe that’s a bit simplistic but given he then moves on to the mission field, it seems not too far off the mark.

There are those who argue Paul is all about grace; grace and not works. And certainly his theological center is on salvation by grace through faith. But there is work to be done, of that he seems clear. There is work not to earn our place but work because our place has been given. We serve because we’ve been served. We love because we’ve been loved. All that we do is in response to what Christ has done in us and for us.

The life we are called to live is an active life. We are workers in God’s field. We are laborers on God’s building. That’s what binds it all together. It is God’s. We are God’s. Dividing up, choosing sides, setting up opposing camps only hinders the mission, says Paul. There is no room for “us and them” in a church that is at work in the field of the God.

Of course, this is more easily said than done. The church in Corinth struggled with it. And we struggle with it today. Our church is divided, perhaps terminally. And the “can’t we all just get along” approach doesn’t even seem like a good bandage for the broken bones all around us. Paul argues our unity is in our shared mission – the mission given him by Jesus Christ, to love God and love neighbor. Our divisiveness handicaps our ability to make disciples of Jesus Christ for the transformation of the world.

Maybe we’ve tried to do it ourselves, our way, according to our leaders long enough. Maybe we need to let God give the growth. Do what we can where we can as we can, but trust God will take what we have and what we can do and make it flourish.

Perhaps the most formidable call of 1 Corinthians is not simply to recognize our own divisions are not God’s best for God’s people, but to take up its insistence we make the gospel message of the one, crucified Christ our own canon for measuring the church.

What would letting God give the growth look like? What vision can you proclaim that allows us to step out of our different camps and tend God’s field?

Matthew – our gospel reading of the day, 5:21-37 – also addresses these issues, connecting the past with the present. In his way, Matthew’s words are addressed to a post-Resurrection audience. He presupposes the belief in a Risen Jesus that fuels Paul’s ministry.

In this text, following the Sermon on the Mount, Matthew gives concrete answers to vexing questions. Each of the units begin with a juxtaposition of what was said to those of ancient times and what is now being said by Jesus to His disciples after  the crowds dispersed. Each of these juxtapositions deal with relationships that affirm the law of the prophets.

  • You have heard that it was said to those of ancient times, “You shall not murder”; and “whoever murders shall be liable to judgment.” But I say to you that if you are angry with a brother or sister, you will be liable to judgment; and if you insult a brother or sister, you will be liable to the council; and if you say, “You fool,” you will be liable to the hell of fire.
  • Come to terms quickly with your accuser while you are on the way to court with him, or your accuser may hand you over to the judge, and the judge to the guard, and you will be thrown into prison. Truly I tell you, you will never get out until you have paid the last penny.
  • You have heard that it was said, “You shall not commit adultery.” But I say to you that everyone who looks at a woman with lust has already committed adultery with her in his heart.
  • It was also said, “Whoever divorces his wife, let him give her a certificate of divorce.” But I say to you that anyone who divorces his wife, except on the ground of unchastity, causes her to commit adultery; and whoever marries a divorced woman commits adultery.
  • Again, you have heard that it was said to those of ancient times, “You shall not swear falsely, but carry out the vows you have made to the Lord.” But I say to you, Do not swear at all, either by heaven, for it is the throne of God, or by the earth, for it is His footstool, or by Jerusalem, for it is the city of the great King. And do not swear by your head, for you cannot make one hair white or black. Let your word be “’Yes, Yes” or “No, No”’; anything more than this comes from the evil one.

Matthew as a whole and specifically these verses are actually a reassurance Christians do not advocate the abolition of the Torah but a fulfillment of the Law. Jesus taught beyond the confines and legalism of the Law and deepens or broadens it by expressing its ultimate intent. Matthew shares this radicalization while at the same time providing counsel for day-to-day living by imperfect people who fall short of this call to live by the perfect will of God. These examples are not new laws, but models for the disciples to adapt to their varied post-Easter situations.

In 5:21-26, we can see the interplay between the vision of the kingdom of heaven and the practical ways this kingdom is to be lived out in the Christian community. The first half, 5:21-22, says, in effect, all anger and hostility are outside the bounds of God’s kingdom. The second half, 5:23-26, admits Christians get angry and suffer through broken relationships and tells us what to do when that reality occurs. The difference between the two halves, between the vision and the practice, is not a matter of hypocrisy but of promise and hope.

We need to teach God intends a man and woman to marry and to remain together until death separates them. We need to hold that up as the goal toward which we should all strive. Given the scope of the divorce problem in our culture, people should know divorce to be avoided, if at all possible. But we also recognize pople often divorce because marriage failed to meet their unreasonable expectations. Marriage should not be some sort of magical carpet ride where glamour and romance reign. It is normal to fall in and out of love — and it takes commitment and spiritual strength to weather difficult times. While Jesus created an exception for porneias — sexual immorality — He didn’t create an exception for alcoholism, drug addiction, spouse abuse, or child abuse. Many of us would consider these to be honest grounds for divorce as well.

It is dangerous to shift the distinctive element in Jesus’ ethic as a relocation of ethics to the heart using the external practices of Jewish legalism as the foil. This is not Matthew’s intent. It isn’t historically true. It slanders Judaism.

Instead, Matthew connects the precepts of the Sermon on the Mount with the teaching of rabbinic Judaism. It’s not the content, but the christological and eschatological perspective on life in light of the dawning kingdom of God.

As we transition out of the season of Epiphany and its proclamation of the good news of God’s presence with us, our response, our recognition of God’s life and work here and now, is more than going through the motions of church. Jesus calls us to a whole new life in God.

In this way, Jesus does not abolish but fulfill[s] the law (verse 17). No longer do the teachings on murder and adultery apply strictly to acts of murder and adultery. Instead, they become doorways into the examination of many internal dynamics as well as external behaviors of one’s life: anger, derision, slander, false generosity, litigiousness, arrogance, lust, temptation, alienation, divorce, and religious speech. Attitudes count. Jesus connects the dots for His listeners from outward acts to internal orientation, from murder to anger, from adultery to lust. It is one thing to behave rightly. It is another thing entirely for one’s heart to be oriented toward love.

We can pat ourselves on the back for not committing murder while we ruin the reputation of a coworker through our words — we even call it “stabbing someone in the back.” The notion we must reconcile with anyone who has something against us before we can give our gifts to God, stops us in our tracks. There is no easy, private relationship to God in these words. Resentment, alienation, and estrangement from others, prevent me from even giving my gifts to God.

We can pat ourselves on the back for not committing adultery, and yet create primary alternate relationships with work, sports, or even the Internet, rather than our spouse. Jesus shifts our attention from particular behaviors we must avoid to particular interior orientations we must cultivate. Kingdom righteousness saturates our whole lives, and promises much more, too. It is the way of blessedness.

During the Epiphany season, we claimed once again we have a living God, incarnate among us, not some far-off potentate who must be humored with occasional acts of obeisance. We proclaim the Word became flesh and lived among us (John 1:14), the Word embedded in real, everyday life, in outward actions and inward attitudes. We proclaim a God present in the flesh and bone of our lives, not a keeper of check-lists.

This is good news! The God born in a manger enters the messiness of life in all its dimensions, seeking to heal and save. This God offers a life deep and wide, where light shines into every nook and cranny, not a puny, flat life, reduced to avoiding the “big sins.” Jesus gives the disciples – and through them, us — a new way of life, not rejecting the tradition, but building upon it. It is a way of life that demands more and promises more. It is life abundant.

Are we, in fact, a cross-shaped people?

And the people of God say … Amen!

THOUGHT TO REMEMBER: Most folks are as happy as they make up their minds to be. — Abraham Lincoln

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

We need to teach God intends a man and woman to marry and to remain together until death separates them. We need to hold that up as the goal toward which we should all strive. Given the scope of the divorce problem in our culture, people should know divorce is a sin to be avoided, if at all possible. People often divorce because marriage failed to meet their unreasonable expectations. Marriage should not be some sort of magical carpet ride where glamour and romance reign. It is normal to fall in and out of love — and it takes commitment and spiritual strength to weather difficult times. While Jesus created an exception for porneias — sexual immorality — He didn’t create an exception for alcoholism, drug addiction, spouse abuse, or child abuse. Many of us would consider these to be honest grounds for divorce as well.

 

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Prayer Requests …

As we build this community prayer platform, we ask the Lord to listen to our petitions with full confidence they not only are heard but acted upon by God according to His holy will. These requests are on my prayer list and I hope you consider putting them on yours as you place your petitions before the Lord Sunday.

Let’s remember to approach the throne room and respond with faith and not fear, knowing the promises of God and His mighty hand will hold us through any situation! Sometimes, all it takes is just one prayer to change everything. Something extraordinary happens when two or more agree together in prayer.

What is one of the most important things we should do as Christians? Praying at all times in the Spirit, with all prayer and supplication. To that end, keep alert with all perseverance, making supplication for all the saints (Ephesians 6:18).

I will ask for prayers as I seek discernment. This weekend and next weekend I will be preaching in Howland, ME. May these words of my mouth and this meditation of my heart be pleasing in your sight, LORD, my Rock and my Redeemer.

Sue is going through a particularly dark time and needs prayers of illumination to help her find the Light again.

Jake, too, has been having fairly severe recurring depression and is currently going through an unusually dark period, despite all medical efforts to the contrary. Prayers requested.

Dave was in a bad accident. He suffered a concussion, broken clavicle, and some cracked ribs. Car was totaled. He needs prayers.

Tara is seeking prayers for guidance. A parish made up of seven churches are voting Feb. 23 on a call for her.

Andrew continues to struggle. He is having a tough time breathing and has lost his voice.  Tough times for a tough guy. Prayers – and a sense of humor –are keeping him afloat. He is learning ASL on the fly … greeted Barb with “God is proud of you. Jesus loves you. You look like Keith Richards.”

Carol had a diverticulitis flare and ended up in the emergency last night because she thought she was having a heart attack. They did an ekg, chest x-ray, and gave her aspirin assuming it was stress related and a bad panic attack. Keep her in your prayers.

Neal Fuller, 50, has been diagnosed with Stage 4 pancreatic cancer .

Unborn baby Eloise is suffering ill health in utero. Her mother sent a new message saying medically, things are looking worse. They had another ultrasound today and her heart is working too hard and her fluid levels have increased.

There were a host of unspoken prayer requests and we heard of a number of deaths this week. Prayers for their families as they go through this earthly trial. We grieve … heaven rejoices.

We come to You, Lord, because prayer is the least yet the greatest thing we can do for each other. When two or more are gathered in Your name, we confidently know You are with us. What better company can we have? You reign and we trust You! We may be broken and battered but know You heal and quiet the soul. You are the source for all that happens in our lives. We thank You for the progress being made. We thank You for the many blessings we have received this week — some we unfortunately didn’t notice. Nonetheless, those blessings are ever-present in our lives. We thank You for healing. We thank You for slowing us down. We thank You for providing us our daily needs — no more and no less. We thank You for being with us, listening to us, walking with us on this journey. We thank You for the support of our family and friends … for seeing the extraordinary in the ordinary — sunrises, sunsets, flowers, kids laughing, adventures, good news amid the bad news. We know we can come to You with our concerns and they will be heard. Through Christ all things are possible. We lift up those family members and friends who are battling various physical, emotional, financial, career or spiritual issues and ask not for Your guidance and healing (although that would be welcomed) but to keep reminding us we are not alone in our battles. Specifically we lift up Joe, Sue, Jake, Dave, Tara, Andrew, Carol, Neal, Eloise, and all those needing Your healing and guiding touch. We pray for the families of all those You have called home.. We grieve … You celebrate. We pray for obedience to Your Will so Your “Son” Light shines through us through the power of the Spirit. And we come to You through the confidence of the words taught by Your Son Jesus. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.

Keep your joys and concerns coming. They have been and will be included during my prayer time and I trust they will be on your lips as well as you approach the altar. All it takes is a couple of keystrokes under the “Contact Me” button on the top bar {or to the right if you’re not a follower yet}. I hope it becomes your best friend as you navigate around the site so we can all be viable prayer warriors. You can also comment or reach me at wisdomfromafather@gmail.com.

THOUGHT TO REMEMBER: He who has learned to pray has learned the greatest secret of a holy and happy life. — William Law

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Five Minute Friday — Experience

It’s time to take five minutes on a specific word prompt and see what comes out: not a perfect post, not a profound post, just five minutes of focused writing.

Yes, it’s Five Minute Friday time. The format is simple. Set the timer for five minutes and write. Don’t worry about mistakes, grammar, fonts or punctuation … just write from your mind and heart. Then, post and encourage others who have braved the exercise by linking up on Facebook at fiveminutefriday.com. That’s the fun part!

To entice you to check us out, I’ve also been sharing some of the experiences my fellow writers have shared as chronicled in Five Minute Friday: A Collection of Stories Written in Five Minutes Flat. This week, I’ll include the words contributed by an anonymous contributor. I hope the words inspire you to join our writing club.

“I’ll never forget the night the word prompt was FEAR. I thought THIS is fear. Writing for five minutes, no edits, no time to clarify or verify! But I did it and I felt free. Now? I don’t even sweat FMF — I have fun and love community of writers.”

This week’s prompt is EXPERIENCE. The time has been set, so I guess it’s time to GO…

Experience is the best teacher. That’s not to denigrate the role of a good teacher, mentor, or soul brother/sister, but to emphasize how experiences shape our lives.

Nonetheless, the proverb rings true. Experience is a great teacher. When we experience and en event — get totally immersed in the person, place or thing that comprises the experience — we gain a valuable lesson. Sometimes its a bad experience. Sometimes it’s a good experience. Always it is a teachable experience.

When things go wrong — and they will — reaching back to our own experiences help to put us on a corrective course to make the next attempt better. When things go right, honing our experience will make it better the next time.

We all have to experience our own experiences. What works for me won’t necessarily work for you. But my experiences give me a peek into the circumstances that possible might be able to help you and your experiences might be able to help me.

Experiences count. They help shape us. … STOP

That was harder than it should have been, but it’s what I came up with.

THOUGHT TO REMEMBER: The most important thing is to enjoy your life — to be happy — it’s all that matters. — Audrey Hepburn

 

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Hearts and Flowers

I consider myself a romantic. But there is one holiday I absolutely detest {I would say hate, but that’s a realllly strong word}. You got it. Valentine’s Day.

Since I was a wee lad, I endured the trials and tribulations of Valentine’s Day. In grade school, there was the obligatory cards to classmates. As we moved up grades it for the opposite gender in our class. Yeuwww. As I got older and discovered there were some anatomical differences between the genders, it became more of a dread. Now I had to decide which girl to give a “special” Valentine to without completely insulting the rest of the girls in my circle.

Fortunately I went to an all boys high school so I had a four year reprieve from the dreaded day. And after I started monogamously dating {okay, for maybe a week at a time} I could break up, let’s say in early February, and make up sometime closer to March.

But then I got serious. Valentine’s Day changed. I had someone I cared about — really cared about — to share the day with. But it didn’t diminish the dread. It shifted from who to what.

I don’t think I ever really nailed it … except for the year I proposed to Karen on Valentine’s Day. Before and after it was a constant struggle. Flowers? Candy? Perfume? A vacuum cleaner?

My first attempt at flowers was a disaster. I left them in the car while I was at work and they sort of wilted before I could present them to her.

Three year old candy in a heart shaped box was a staple choice … until I discovered she ate all the good ones and just left the hard nougat centered morsels. And after the kids started coming, she rarely managed a piece or two. {PS. As a confession, I was probably one of the kids.}

Perfume was always a good choice. Karen loved Eternity. The problem was I usually gave her a bottle of perfume for Christmas. Two months later was overkill. Besides, Eternity doesn’t age well into eternity.

No. I never bought her a vacuum cleaner … or a kitchen mixer … or any appliance. I may have been naive, but I was not stupid.

As we matured, I was apt to buy her something personal — like lingerie. One year I got that look. “Is this a present for me or for you?”

And so my mind sparred with my soul. The dread I discovered in my formative years plagued me … year after year.

You know what I discovered? The best present was me … my undivided attention … a little doting … watching those romantic chick flicks instead of Dirty Harry. And I discovered Valentine’s Day doesn’t have to be celebrated on Feb. 14. It can be any day from Jan. 1 through Dec. 31 when I can do just that. Be there.

I miss that these days. But I’m not as anxious about Valentine’s Day.

THOUGHT TO REMEMBER: Love is not what you say. Love is what you do.

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Midweek Mirth

One of the misconceptions about being a Christian is non-Christians think we don’t know how to have fun or have a sense of humor. Trust me, if the Big Guy can have a sense of humor when it comes to dealing with us mere mortals, so can we.

The difference for Christians is we don’t have to debase ourselves or others to generate a smile. Laughter at life or ourselves is a gift from God.

It’s time for some Midweek Mirth so let’s smile a little!

Genesis

A father was reading the Bible to his little girl before bedtime one night. He was on the first chapter of Genesis. “In the beginning, the world was without form and void,” the father read. “And God said, ‘Let there be light.’ …And God separated the light from the dark.”

“I know what happens next!” the little girl exclaimed excitedly.

“What happens next?” asked the father, smiling.

The girl replied, “God did two loads of laundry.”

And now, in the spirit of Valentine’s Day, here’s the bonus …

Poor Reflection

A fellow decided to buy his girl some perfume for Valentine’s Day, so he went to the cosmetic counter in his girl’s favorite store. The prices were horrific! No matter what the sales lady showed him, even the tiniest bottles were beyond his budget. Finally, he asked her: “Can you show me something really cheap?”

She handed him a mirror.

THOUGHT TO REMEMBER: Laugh and the world laughs with you, snore and you sleep alone. — Anthony Burgess

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Man of the Month

Put it on your calendar to visit Amazon tomorrow (Feb. 12). Check out Man of the Month, the latest offering from author Patricia M. Robertson. You won’t be disappointed.

This Christian-based romantic comedy is part of Robertson’s Dancing on a High Wire series — her ninth installment. It’s a bit different, lighter and easy to read.

The story follows Gwen who is making final seminary discernment with an internship in her home town of Cascade Falls. It was the last place Gwen wanted to do her internship, but her father’s heart attack and recuperation influenced her return back home interning at St. Luke’s.

Gwen had a strained relationship with her mother, who was pushy and a big reason Gwen had left the comforts of home. So it was not all that unexpected her mother asked her friends to join her in the “Man of the Month Club.” Their goal? To find an eligible young man each month for Gwen to date until she finds “Mr. Right” and settles down in Cascade Falls. The winner gets mom’s prized Thunderbird.

What could go wrong?

It led to some entertaining entanglements … some downright sad but most bringing a smile as each “man of the month” tried to woo little Miss Gwen.

The biggest problem I had was reconciling a character with a “calling” and the trials and tribulations of a 20-something woman … specifically with the drinking and partying and obsession to flirt, willingly or not. I have nothing against either — and they were tastefully done, sometimes hilariously done — but I had a hard time accepting she was a seminarian and doing a church internship, especially in a small town where people know what you did before you did.

That being said, the story did hold my interest and it was easy to see whose story this was. I admit I figured out who was going to ultimately win the “Man of the Month” title at just his second appearance and well before it was revealed he was even a Man of the Month (I watch a lot of Hallmark movies). It bothered me the other suitors were buffoons and questioned why she would put up with them, even going on a date with them. I sensed Gwen was suffering from self-esteem issues which affected her social and professional life.

I liked the balance of Pastor Joe and especially Adelle, her spiritual advisor. I thought her mother was overbearing in a loving way (although I understand that is often the mother-daughter relationship).

I definitely would recommend the read and give it five stars. It was fun trying to guess who got the T-Bird.

Robertson is an author, speaker and spiritual director committed to helping individuals find God in their everyday experience. She has a Doctor of Ministry from Ecumenical Theological Seminary in Detroit, MI, where she focused on Spiritual Direction and Pastoral Counseling. Her dissertation, In God’s Image and Likeness, explores how early childhood relationships affect adult images of God.

In addition to her novels — this is the ninth in the series — her published works include: Daily Meditations (with Scripture) for Busy Moms, ACTA Publications; The Rosary: Worry Beads for Anxious Parents, Franciscan Media; and They Do Grow Up: Parents and Teens Talk, Liguori Publications. She also published a series of meditations on the church liturgical calendar and has had articles published in Chicago Studies, St. Anthony Messenger Press, U.S. Catholic, and America. She published a monthly column in the Jackson (MI) Citizen Patriot for eight years.

Man of the Month, Series: Dancing on a High Wire (Book 9), $14.95 (Prime); Paperback: 221 pages; Publisher: Dreamweaver Press (Feb. 8, 2020); Language: English; ISBN-10: 1733193413; ISBN-13: 978-1733193412

Kindle, $2.99; File Size: 1964 KB; Simultaneous Device Usage: Unlimited; Publication Date: Feb. 12, 2020; Sold by: Amazon.com Services; Language: English; ASIN: B0845VFMDK; Text-to-Speech: Enabled; Word Wise: Enabled; Lending: Enabled; Screen Reader: Supported; Enhanced Typesetting: Enabled

THOUGHT TO REMEMBER: Whoever is happy will make others happy too. — Anne Frank

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Humility

Our Words for the Week: A few examples on Humility

Columnist Rick Reilly gave this advice to rookie professional athletes: “Stop thumping your chest. The line blocked, the quarterback threw you a perfect spiral while getting his head knocked off, and the good receiver drew the double coverage. Get over yourself.”

The truth is, every touchdown in life is a team effort. Applaud your teammates.

An elementary-age boy came home from the tryouts for the school play. “Mommy, Mommy,” he announced, “I got a part. I’ve been chosen to sit in the audience and clap and cheer.”

When you have a chance to clap and cheer, do you take it?

If you do, your head is starting to fit your hat size.

THOUGHT TO REMEMBER: Obstacles don’t have to stop you. If you run into a wall, don’t turn around and give up. Figure out how to climb it, go through it or work around it.

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