After Karen died, I decided part of my grief therapy would be writing a memoir — not my own, but of our life together. I gathered information from my recollections, her journals and other sources and spent the next six months crafting In the Blink of an Eye: 40 Years of Memories.
I decided to give it to my children as a gift — a glimpse of their Mom through my eyes. It covered our life together — from how we met, how we lived the ups and downs of our lives, how we survived 40 years of marriage and five children, how we struggled at the end.
It was a bittersweet assignment … especially re-living those final six months. I shared the tears and fears as well as the triumphs. I explained how some of the “routines” we had came to be. I tried to separate fact from the urban legends of time. I included tons of photos, cards and cartoons. And I sandwiched those 40 years with a prologue and epilogue.
I asked the kids if they would object to sharing, especially because they are interspersed on the pages. They have given me their permission. As my middle son said, “Our greatest gift and blessing to others comes when we share our story.”
I think this venue would be appropriate for sharing those words with you … to give you some insight just how much Karen influenced my life, to help you understand where I’m coming from, to help you peel back additional layers of my life.
Some of the material has already been used in previous posts, but there are other aspects that will be new — especially the artwork.
So, beginning next Wednesday, I’ll begin a weekly peek into the life Karen and I had. It’s her legacy. I hope you get the chance to know and love her as I did.
THOUGHT TO REMEMBER: Get rid of anything that isn’t useful. Clutter weighs you down in many ways.