Saying “I Love You”

Just before Karen died, she had been reading a book she received as a gift from JoAnn {don’t know who that is} by Rodale Press for Hallmark. It was actually for both of us, but Karen was the reader in the family.

The book was 50 things that really matter.  She didn’t get through all 50 … her last chapter was 32.

This book celebrates 50 of the simple things that really do matter in life. Within its pages are first person stories about the value of conversing over a good cup of coffee, the importance of hugs, the courage of living a simple life, the wisdom in a street musician’s words, the peace and relaxation in watching a candle flame.

I’ve been sharing some of these stories — the first person stories followed by my two cents worth — to encourage you, enlighten you and enrich your soul. But, most of all, I hope they may inspire you to see the real value in life.

This is the latest excerpt from 50 things that really matter.

When I was in college, a man named Henry worked as a custodian in our student union building. White-haired, with a Pennsylvania Dutch accent, Henry could usually be seen in a baseball cap, a T-shirt and a pair of baggy jeans with a big silver belt buckle.

He was the custodian, and he was the most respected and most well-known person in the building. Everyone loved Henry, and it was because of all the subtle ways he expressed his love for everyone around him. Henry didn’t have to say “I love you.” He lived his love.

Henry was always excited when he met someone new, and he wanted to know everything about them. He felt it was important to do things for people he valued. And Henry seemed to value everyone he met. He brought in articles or cartoons for certain people, went out of his way to introduce people to each other, kept track of dozens of names and birthdays in his wallet so he could send cards, and helped students keep in touch with graduates who had written him. He even discreetly assisted students who didn’t have enough money to buy their books.

Henry taught me — and many others he befriended — how to live life to the fullest. Not by skydiving or exploring some exotic country, but by appreciating where you are in life and valuing those around you.

The funny thing is that despite all he did and taught us, Henry truly believed that he was the lucky one — that he was the one who was gaining so much by getting to know us. But all of us who remember Henry know that we were the ones who were truly blessed.

We will never forget the man who taught us that the best way to say “I love you” often has little to do with the words.
By Sandy Heierbacher, 50 things that really matter, Rodale Press for Hallmark

Henry sounds like a truly happy man, not superficially happy, but truly happy. He understands words are just words if not backed up by action. And he would have not only believed but known he was the lucky one.

Love works when you give it. Love manifests itself in thoughtful words … hugs and kisses  … unexpected cards … cartoons and articles … caring and sharing …

And best part about giving love is it comes around. The more you give, the more you receive.

THOUGHT TO REMEMBER: The fact that silence is golden may explain why there is so little of it.

About wisdomfromafather

I'm just an ordinary guy walking along the journey of life.
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2 Responses to Saying “I Love You”

  1. bur911 says:

    this is very nice. Love is to be projected and shown as you said.

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