Five Minute Friday — True

Here’s this week’s installment of Five Minute Friday. You might remember the task at hand is to write for five minutes on a specific prompt word. The initiative was started by Lisa-Jo Baker who thought about writing and how often our perfectionism gets in the way of our words. And she figured, why not take five minutes and see what comes out: not a perfect post, not a profound post, just five minutes of focused writing.

Lisa strayed a bit this week. She gave a preamble to her readers — predominately young mothers like her — about her next goal … presenting motherhood. Here’s how she phrased it …

“…But here I am anyway and sitting with a bum knee (remind me to tell you how I got five stitches and a tetanus shot in Austin last week) up on a sofa overlooking a beautiful view with hundreds of miles between me and my kids writing the story of how I’m the only version of a mom I know how to be. And it likely looks different than your version. And it’s always a work in progress.

And I don’t want to be scared to tell you how motherhood looks for me because I never want you to be scared of being able to share how it looks for you.

Next week I’m going to share some of the stories that make me both me and a mother. Me and a working mother. Me and a mother who grew up in South Africa. Me and a mother who has three adopted siblings. Me and a mother who lost her mother. Me and a mother who’s writing a book.

Because if we’re going to do this thing — if we’re going to remind each other that we are both more and less complicated than ‘just’ a mom, we’re going to need to trust each other, yes

So I’ll go first.

I’ll share you some of my ‘back’ stories. Because in reality they’re my ‘now’ stories.

And I’ll know that we’re in this thing together.

Really.

Yes?

So our word for Five Minute Friday this week? Let’s make it: TRUE. Because I need your true stories. Just like I hope you need mine.
(See more at: http://lisajobaker.com/2013/09/when-a-blogger-gets-stage-fright/)”

Lisa’s openness was refreshing. I had to comment. And this is what I said to her …

“Loved the prompt and the idea behind it. As a man, I am often overwhelmed by how women — my wife included — diminish their roles, juggling careers (even if it’s the most demanding job of being a homemaker) and home life. We men often are experts in compartmentalizing our lives — separating work and careers from home life — frequently at the expense of one or the other. You women blend them and make them work. My prayer would be no woman ever calls herself ‘just’ a mother. It’s the most important job in the world! And that’s the truth, phthh!”

To be honest, I felt like an interloper this week, especially as I read some of the responses to Lisa’s challenge. I can’t figure out in my right brain-left brain why women sell themselves short. You guys are amazing. You not only have the capacity to use your brains and your brawn, but your heart as well. Celebrate that! That softness of heart, that compassion is what makes you stand out. And, please, please, please strike the word “just” out of your vocabulary

This week’s prompt is TRUE.

I’m not setting the timer this time around. I’ve already invested well more than five minutes. But I think the prompt was justified … STOP

I try to present “back stories” into my life through my posts. You guys probably know as much about me as anyone. That’s TRUE, too.

I receive so much insight from reading your posts. It’s refreshing to read about Cheerios crushed into the carpet or supper coming out of the freezer, into the oven and onto a paper plate. It heartening to hear these young women turning their trials into testimonies. That’s TRUE, too.

At least from this guy, I say, Let’s hear it for the girls!

THOUGHT TO REMEMBER:  The most effective way to cope with change is to help create it.

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8 Responses to Five Minute Friday — True

  1. Mindy Howell says:

    First off, how refreshing to hear a man raise accolades to women. That being said, we are not “just” anything (i.e. just an ordinary guy) you are fearfully and wonderfully made! I too did not set my timer this week, usually I do, but this topic was so profound, so unexplored. We are all so good at pretending we are just “fine” to everyone around us that we don’t take the time to explore that line within ourselves. Is that true? Are you fine? So, answer this with the truth. How are you today?

    • You got me on “just”. I should practice what I preach {humble face}. I am fine today … still feeling some hurt, sure … but I have learned over the years to do exactly what you said, “explore that line within myself” and know I can’t help or understand others if I don’t understand myself. It wasn’t always that way … just developed over the many, many years. You go girl!

  2. Lisa says:

    I’ve had several conversations with people since I’ve left the professional world in which I’ve been told that being a mother didn’t quite compare to what I did before (in so many words). Strike the word ‘just’ from the vocabulary, I’d like to…but we live a world that bases value on productivity, results, and success. That said, it is a constant battle to redefine this with what is true–God values faithfulness over success because we may never be what others define as ‘successful’.

    • Don’t let others define success. You nailed it … it’s faithfulness. And don’t allow anyone to cheapen motherhood. It may not compare apples to apples to other professional professions, but turn it around. When was the last time a doctor, lawyer or other professional got up at 3 a.m. to tend to a sick child? Or realized a crayon colored stick figure is more important to the psyche of a child than a set of engineering plans? A mother’s “apples” are “apples of gold.” Thanks for the insight.

  3. Joe, woman needs a reminder now and again that we are more than ‘just’ moms or what ever we think we are. My husband agrees with your sentiments. The other day we had a conversation about the rolls of men vs woman. We live on a boat and I learned that woman sell themselves short much to often. We can be successful and accomplish much if we believe in ourselves (and I’m guilty of this, especially when it come to writing. I can sail a boat though).
    It’s refreshing to read how men perceive woman. Thank you.

    • You’re welcome. My biggest challenge through my marriage was building up my wife’s self esteem and remind her he is successful and can do whatever makes her fulfilled as a person … no matter what anyone else thinks. She went from a shy young woman to an award-winning journalist, public speaker and publisher of her own Christian magazine. She did it. I just supported and encouraged her. And that’s what she she did for me as well. I also tried to instill this sense of worth for my daughters as well. I may not speak for all men because there are lot of jerks out there {men and women} but it all comes down to respect.

  4. Angela Hanson says:

    I just completed an eight week study on womanhood (Divine Design), so your comments on this are right on time:) It was refreshing to hear, especially from a man, the value women have regardless of the role we play. We need to remember that the gifts we tend to overlook as inconsequential are the very things that change peoples lives (including our children). Consider “just” stricken from my vocabulary!

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