Here’s this week’s installment of Five Minute Friday. You might remember the task at hand is to write for five minutes on a specific prompt word. The initiative was started by Lisa-Jo Baker who thought about writing and how often our perfectionism gets in the way of our words. And she figured, why not take five minutes and see what comes out: not a perfect post, not a profound post, just five minutes of focused writing.
Lisa strayed a bit this week. She gave a preamble to her readers — predominately young mothers like her — about her next goal … presenting motherhood. Here’s how she phrased it …
“…But here I am anyway and sitting with a bum knee (remind me to tell you how I got five stitches and a tetanus shot in Austin last week) up on a sofa overlooking a beautiful view with hundreds of miles between me and my kids writing the story of how I’m the only version of a mom I know how to be. And it likely looks different than your version. And it’s always a work in progress.
And I don’t want to be scared to tell you how motherhood looks for me because I never want you to be scared of being able to share how it looks for you.
Next week I’m going to share some of the stories that make me both me and a mother. Me and a working mother. Me and a mother who grew up in South Africa. Me and a mother who has three adopted siblings. Me and a mother who lost her mother. Me and a mother who’s writing a book.
Because if we’re going to do this thing — if we’re going to remind each other that we are both more and less complicated than ‘just’ a mom, we’re going to need to trust each other, yes
So I’ll go first.
I’ll share you some of my ‘back’ stories. Because in reality they’re my ‘now’ stories.
And I’ll know that we’re in this thing together.
So our word for Five Minute Friday this week? Let’s make it: TRUE. Because I need your true stories. Just like I hope you need mine.
(See more at: http://lisajobaker.com/2013/09/when-a-blogger-gets-stage-fright/)”
Lisa’s openness was refreshing. I had to comment. And this is what I said to her …
“Loved the prompt and the idea behind it. As a man, I am often overwhelmed by how women — my wife included — diminish their roles, juggling careers (even if it’s the most demanding job of being a homemaker) and home life. We men often are experts in compartmentalizing our lives — separating work and careers from home life — frequently at the expense of one or the other. You women blend them and make them work. My prayer would be no woman ever calls herself ‘just’ a mother. It’s the most important job in the world! And that’s the truth, phthh!”
To be honest, I felt like an interloper this week, especially as I read some of the responses to Lisa’s challenge. I can’t figure out in my right brain-left brain why women sell themselves short. You guys are amazing. You not only have the capacity to use your brains and your brawn, but your heart as well. Celebrate that! That softness of heart, that compassion is what makes you stand out. And, please, please, please strike the word “just” out of your vocabulary
This week’s prompt is TRUE.
I’m not setting the timer this time around. I’ve already invested well more than five minutes. But I think the prompt was justified … STOP
I try to present “back stories” into my life through my posts. You guys probably know as much about me as anyone. That’s TRUE, too.
I receive so much insight from reading your posts. It’s refreshing to read about Cheerios crushed into the carpet or supper coming out of the freezer, into the oven and onto a paper plate. It heartening to hear these young women turning their trials into testimonies. That’s TRUE, too.
At least from this guy, I say, Let’s hear it for the girls!
THOUGHT TO REMEMBER: The most effective way to cope with change is to help create it.