Bond … James Bond

I was never a big Bond fan. I may have watched a few here and there, but never bought into the franchise.

A few years ago I wandered across the street to catch SPECTRE, the 26th — count em – in the 007 series. As a result, I decided to see what I had missed and streamed  Dr. No and Goldfinger.  I must not have been impressed at the time because I never got any further than those two early flicks.

Well, Turner Movie Classics is highlighting screen adaptations of Ian Fleming’s novels sequentially this month. So I decided to give them another look. The other day I watched Dr. No and From Russia with Love. Last night I watched Goldfinger. Three down, 23 to go … maybe.

While I watched both Dr. No and Goldfinger less than four years ago, I have to confess, it was like watching them for the first time. I didn’t remember anything about the plots, only the lady leads — in order, Honey Ryder, Tatiana Romanova, and Pussy Galore — which tells you what my interests were in the mid 60s.

As I’ve been watching the films, I’ve been making some mental notes. Bond … James Bond has to be the dumbest spy ever. He gets hoodwinked at every turn by his nemeses and/or their henchmen. A simple karate chop usually incapacitates him. Of course, his repertoire of gadgets always come in handy at an appropriate time … after all, he is the star — in these three cases, Sean Connery. He also has an eye for the ladies, but, then again, they are easy on the eyes, especially as they drape themselves in satin, lace and towels. Even by 60s standards, it was an obvious sex sells ploy. I saw hints of more recent spy flicks on the screen. Seeds were certainly planted. The 60s special effects are crude by today’s standards and the story lines tend to push the envelope of believability.

But, hey, the 007 franchise was never meant to be believable. It is entertainment, a two hour respite from reality that brings us to exotic locales. Our first three offerings has the British Intelligence M16 agent visiting Jamaica and the Cayman Islands (Dr. No), Turkey, aboard the Orient Express and Venice (From Russia with Love), and Switzerland and Kentucky (Goldfinger) … usually with one of his  femme fatales in tow. Oh, by the way, SPECTRE is the back story.That’s an acronym for SPecial Executive for Counter-intelligence, Terrorism, Revenge, and Extortion.

Onward and upward I go. Thunderball is next.

THOUGHT TO REMEMBER: Do what is right, not what you think the high headquarters wants or what you think will make you look good. — Norman Schwarzkopf, General-Ret

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Midweek Mirth

One of the misconceptions about being a Christian is non-Christians think we don’t know how to have fun or have a sense of humor. Trust me, if the Big Guy can have a sense of humor when it comes to dealing with us mere mortals, so can we.

The difference for Christians is we don’t have to debase ourselves or others to generate a smile. Laughter at life or ourselves is a gift from God.

So, let’s smile a little!

Express Line Vindication

A woman was in the six-item express lane at the store quietly fuming. Completely ignoring the sign, the woman ahead of her had slipped into the checkout line pushing a cart piled high with groceries. Imagine the first woman’s delight when the cashier beckoned the woman to come forward looked into the cart and asked, “So which six items would you like to buy?”

And now for the bonus while college days are still new …

College Daze

A woman used to live near a major university. Every fall, the new flock of kids attending college always included some who needed a little help with everyday chores due to never having really done any while they lived at home … things like doing the laundry or purchasing groceries.

One day at the grocery store, she was in the dairy aisle, picking out some eggs. As she usually did, she opened the carton to check them over for damage before putting them in her cart. That’s when she noticed the young man beside her mimicking her every move. When he saw she had noticed him, he leaned toward her and whispered conspiratorially, “What are we looking for?”

THOUGHT TO REMEMBER: If you have just a little fun today, it’s a sign that maybe the future will hold even more fun for you. Fun isn’t just fun – it’s hope. -– Linda Richman

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Covers

One of my followers asked a simple question. How do you create covers and how important are they.

Well, in my opinion, covers are just as important as the body of work. In a way, it may even be more  important since it is generally the first thing prospective readers will see. Its important the cover reflect the content. The goal is to capture the attention of the reader to get them into your work.

The inspiration for Heaven Shining Through

An important element is that it matches the theme of the book. If you’re writing a scholarly work, you want to choose a formal format for your cover. If your novel is quirky, you should focus on a quirky title and cover. Romance? Same thing. Mystery? Same thing.

You can design the cover yourself if you have the skills, although most traditional publishers will usually work with you to create an appropriate cover. Independents using platforms like KDP, Smashwords, etc. will find cover creators as part of the process. You pick the format and upload.

It’s pretty seamless, although I fear the “standard” fare offered tends to make a lot of books look alike.

I’ve done it both ways with my books. Xulon created the cover for Heaven Shining Through although I provided the original artwork. They cleaned it up and chose the typeface to come up with the cover.

In my mind, I had a vision of the sun’s rays peeking through the clouds.  I actually caught one of those moments while driving along the back roads of Maine. I sent the original to Xulon who cropped it and came up with the cover. It was appropriate since the opening of the book was “I was driving alone on the dark black asphalt, seemingly darker because of ominous clouds on the horizon ranging from steel gray to puffs of white. Out of the corner of my eye, I caught a glimpse of white as the sun tried to peek out from behind the clouds. It didn’t succeed, but first a ray rained into the picture, followed by a halo of rays.”

I independently published Wisdom From a Father … one dad’s thoughts on life. I was proud of the cover, which features a photo I took of Marshall Point Lighthouse in Port Clyde, ME. The long planks hopefully invite readers to the lighthouse and, in turn, to open the book and choose their own path and pace. The type — Edwardian Script — was chosen to be personal and intimate. The combination blends the illumination, resilience, and comfort of the lighthouse with words that hopefully guide, build inner strength, and give hope. Wisdom From a Father is a reflective look at life, segmented into chapters. The words are updates of posts made right here on my blog. I’ve chosen 52 so readers can use the book as a weekly devotional if they so choose.

Initially, I independently published My Name Is Sam … and Heaven Is Still Shining Through. I also designed that cover, incorporating the basic points of the book. It included a similar sun’s rays peeking through the clouds but with bolder brighter colors — pinks and blues. A woman is seated at a bench overlooking the sunrise over the  ocean. It featured a specialized script text and clearly defined the content as a fictional memoir.

I liked the way the cover came out. It was bright. It was different. It captured the essence of the novel. KDP, however, the platform I chose, had a problem with the e-book conversion we couldn’t resolve. We tried. KDP staff worked  on it. I changed things like pixels and sizes. We managed to eliminate a lot of the white space, but not entirely.

I decided to switch to a small publishing house, Higher Ground Books & Media, which came up with a revised cover that still captured the essence of the story. It is softer than my original, which plays into the softer side of the novel. It also fit the KDP criteria.

Higher Ground Books & Media of Springfield, OH, is an independent Christian-based publisher designed to provide a platform for authors to share their stories and empower others through storytelling.  The small stable of authors features work that is inspirational, motivational, or educational, in both fiction and non-fiction genres. It is my hope the switch – coupled with self promotion – will kick start the latest novel and introduce my work to a new audience. New links are at the HGBM Store, Amazon, or Kindle.

So, the answer to the question about covers is you have to pay a lot of attention to them. My advice would be, after you’ve completed your manuscript, read your book a final time as a reader, close your eyes, and create an image that sums up your story. That’s your launch point. If you’re creative, run with your idea. If not, find someone who is to bring your vision to life.

Hope that helps.

All three books are available on Amazon and right here under the My Books and Projects tab.

THOUGHT TO REMEMBER: The highest reward for your toil is not what you get for it, but what you become by it. — John Ruskin

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We Haven’t Been Up to Bat Yet

This week’s Words for the Week is a tongue in cheek message that resonates a real truth

Temptation tries to blind us to other possibilities. Consider this, for example.

A business man driving home from work one day saw a little league baseball game in progress. He decided to stop and watch. He sat down in the bleachers and asked a kid what the score was.

“We’re behind 14 to nothing,” the boy answered with a smile.

“Really,” the man responded. “I have to say you don’t look very discouraged.”

“Discouraged?” the boy asked with a puzzled look on his face. “Why should we be discouraged? We haven’t been up to bat yet.”

THOUGHT TO REMEMBER: Every worthwhile accomplishment has a price tag attached to it. The question is always whether you are willing to pay the price to attain it — in hard work, sacrifice, patience, faith, and endurance. — John C. Maxwell

 

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Joy … Joy … Joy

I like to share my words when I preach from the slanty side of the pulpit. Today — and for the next three weeks — I was/will be at Howland (ME) United Methodist Church. While this has been delivered and shared before, I felt the people of Howland needed to know a little bit about me. As I explained, I was born, raised and educated as a Catholic, ordained as a Reformed elder, had credentials transferred as a Presbyterian, and most recently have been facing Methodist congregations. Hey, that all may be one!

So, here goes …

May these words of my mouth and this meditation of my heart be pleasing in your sight, LORD, my Rock and my Redeemer (Psalm 19:4).

As I mentioned in my introduction, I’m not a preacher, but when I was an elder at Tyre (NY) Reformed Church, I was pressed into pulpit service. I came across my first sermon the other day and thought I would share it with you today.

… And He sayeth unto thee, the wicked shall be punished …

No, no (shuffle papers), these are the wrong notes.

Ah, here we are. Joy … one of the “glad” words like praise and rejoice.

I was working on these comments the other day, like a fish out of water. I knew what I wanted to say, but I didn’t know exactly how to phrase it. And being the procrastinator that I am, the days wound down to a precious few. After putting out that week’s edition of my newspaper, I settled in for a night of “rest” and “relaxation.”

Lo and behold, my grandson came along. He’s the one with more energy than any three-year should legitimately have {shows you how long ago this was written; he just turned 23}. He wanted to watch a movie and, since I wanted a few winks, I figured it was a good mix.

To make a long story short, he chose Pollyanna and instantly I recognized the hand of God in that decision. The movie was the connection I needed to discuss joy.

You’ve probably all seen the movie. Pollyanna has become a model for all that is good and righteous. In a town fraught with pettiness, loneliness, fear and tepidness came this bright-eyed maiden with a simple faith who touched the hearts and souls of the people of Harrington.

She reminds me a lot of Clarence, the angel in It’s a Wonderful Life. The simplicity of seeing things at face value is a faith lesson to us all.

Both Pollyanna and Clarence had a clarity in their world view. It wasn’t based on theological discourse. It wasn’t attained through rigorous study. No, it was a pure, simple faith in the goodness of God’s creations.

We often speak of the faith of a child … simple, unjaded, often direct enough to cut to our very own core We can tell from Scripture God loves his youngest creations. Jesus was as much at ease with the little ones as He was with others. They weren’t a bother. They were important.

And the common theme of this innocent view is the ability to look for the good in people … to look at the wonder of a snowflake … to explore the richness of life.

Praise ye the Lord.
    Praise God in His sanctuary.
Praise Him in the firmament of His power.
    Praise Him for His mighty acts.
Praise Him according to His excellent greatness.
    Praise Him with the sound of the trumpet.
Praise Him with the psaltery and harp.
    Praise Him with the timbrel and dance.
Praise Him upon the loud cymbals.
Praise Him upon the High sounding cymbals.
    Let everything that hath breath praise the Lord.
Praise ye the Lord.

That’s Psalm 150. What praise is expressed here. What joy. How can I keep still, Lord, when everywhere I see Thy works. How often I’ve heard these words and allowed them to vaporize off into the distance. Too many things on my mind, I guess, and it isn’t easy to shut out the worries, fears and concerns.

What joy there is in praise. I’ve been given so many marvelous gifts and yet I don’t appear to be the happiest person. It’s not that I’m thankless, for God knows I am thankful. It’s just I don’t slow down enough to let Him show me the life that can be mine.

The pivotal scene in Pollyanna, I think, is when she visits the good Rev. Ford to drop off some “notes” for his sermon. She’s wearing a locket her father gave her, which she allows the reverend to read.

“When you look for the bad in mankind and expect to find it, you surely will.”

You won’t find that reference in Scripture or any theological discourse. It’s from the sayings of Abraham Lincoln and it opened the reverend’s eyes.

It should open our eyes as well. Don’t we often look on the down side of life? Don’t we often focus on the trials and tribulations? Don’t we often look at the glass as half empty? Aren’t today’s readings more on the Debbie Downer side than joyful?

Don’t get me wrong. There are plenty of trials and tribulations in life. There is plenty of darkness out there.

But we have the Light. We have the Son. We know firsthand as Christians there is something better in store for us. Through thick and thin, we truly, truly have a friend in Jesus.

Maybe we should start looking for the good in people. I think we’ll find it just as surely.

What joy. What unmistakable joy. What a missed opportunity we have.

We hear the negative when we come to church, too. Very often, it is the God of fire and brimstone that gets the attention. We have a fear of the Lord drilled into us from our earliest days.

Certainly, our God is to be awed. To think He created us in His likeness and image only to have us throw it back in His face is loathsome. We deserve the fire and brimstone of hell. We deserve the fire and brimstone of hell.

But God loves us. He sent His only Son to atone for our sins. We remember Jesus’ cruel death … a death He freely chose to save you and me. He stretched His arms across the cross to create a bridge allowing us access back into the heavenly fold.

We can concentrate on the death … or we can concentrate on the Resurrection. We can concentrate on the somewhat and often times difficulties of discipleship … or we can concentrate on the promises God has given us through Jesus and the Holy Spirit. Half empty … half full.

Do we deserve eternal damnation?

Of course we do … but that is not God’s will. It’s His will to share His heavenly bounty with us. His one aim is for us to be reunited with Him through the blood of His Son, Jesus.

That’s the joyful message of the Bible and the joyful summation of our faith. Sure, some pretty crummy things were done both in biblical and modern times. God has shown His rightful wrath and He owns the right of justification. He is the creator, we are the creation. If He chooses to throw us in the fire for our blemishes, so be it. It’s His prerogative. Nothing we do on our own will ever change that. It’s all about grace.

Our gospel account [Luke 14:25-33] deals with two not so joyful themes – allegiance to God, even over family and the discord the Lord  expects; and “carrying the cross”, the emphasis on giving up self interest and competing loyalties and pointing out the high cost of following Jesus. He illustrates His point of counting the cost of discipleship with the two parables about the land owner and the king. He extols a commitment to finishing the discipleship journey once begun or not beginning it at all. Following Jesus is an all or nothing proposition.

My point is no matter how difficult and problematic our readings are [first reading was Jeremiah 18:1-11], there are still nuggets of joy and hope to be found for those who have made the commitment to Christ. See, I believe this just God doesn’t want any of His creation to be damned. He wants us all to be saved. He has given us that gift … freely, of His own choice. Our responsibility is to accept the gift … no strings attached. Half empty … half full.

Well, there are some strings. We must always and ever recognize and demonstrate this unwavering love. And we do that through praise and rejoicing.

Of course that leads us to prayer.

One television program my wife Karen and I generally tried to watch was Touched By An Angel. It’s nice to think we’re touched by angels and in the span of 47 minutes lives can be turned around. But angels are another topic. What I’m going for here is the transformation process found in our saved soul.

More often than not, at some point in the show that soul she is trying to save tells Monica to tell God to butt out. “Where has God been?” might be the question. Whenever that point in the show arrives, I’m reminded of George Bailey in It’s A Wonderful Life when he gets popped after praying.

I think sometimes God must get bored up there in heaven. I know I would, listening to the same old rhetoric over and over … words spilling from the lips, rote-style. “Heavenly Father this …” or “gracious God that …”

I think prayer is something else. It’s communication. It’s simply talking with God … from the heart, not the mind, from the soul, not the lips.

I’ve always had an open line to God. I’m not a “formal” prayer. In the middle of a traffic jam or when in the solitude of my distress I might internally scream at God. “What the heck is going on?” I might cry, perhaps not that sedately. I can talk with God one-on-one like a friend … and I know God speaks to me as a friend. We all know how caustic and sometimes blunt a true friend can be, cutting through all the garbage in our lives and touching our very souls.

This week, stop praying.

 

Well, that got some attention.

Seriously, stop praying … and start talking to God from your heart. The heart is our emotional fountain. Let God know your emotions. Heck, He knows them anyway. He knows our heart. He knows our motives. He knows the truth … better than we do. Don’t masquerade your emotions with platitudes. If you’re angry with God, let Him know. But if you’re happy with God, share that joy as well with words of praise, not because that’s what should be done, but because that’s the way you feel. Half empty … half full.

I’ll close with another story … one many of us can relate to.

“I’ve got some good news and some bad news to tell you. Which would you like to hear first?” the farmer asked.

“Why don’t you tell me the bad news first,” the banker replied.

“Okay,” said the farmer. “With the bad drought and inflation and all, I won’t be able to pay anything on my mortgage this year, either on the principal or the interest.”

“Well, that’s pretty bad,” the banker said.

“It gets worse,” said the farmer. “I also won’t be able to pay anything on the loan for all that machinery I bought, not on the principal or interest.”

“Wow, is that ever bad,” the banker admitted.

“It’s worse than that,” continued the farmer. “You remember I also borrowed to buy seed and fertilizer and other supplies. I can’t pay anything on that either — neither principal nor interest.”

“That’s awful,” said the banker, “and that’s enough. What’s the good news?”

“The good news,” replied the farmer with a smile, “is I intend to keep on doing business with you.”

The good news I’m telling you is God is our banker. Despite our failings, He wants to continue to do business with us.

Do we believe the good news or the bad? Isn’t that our dilemma?

The good news is Christ is alive. The bad news is that fact seems to have so little impact on the world today. In this world it’s easy to be fearful and troubled of heart. It’s easy to look at the glass as half empty … but Jesus tells us we must look at it as half full. Christ is alive and so are we.

You’ve probably figured out how I “look” at life. I try to see the little everyday miracles. I’m awestruck by the starry night or a flash of light bellowing amid dark stormy clouds. I’m struck by their beauty, but more so knowing no mortal nor chance of nature could create such masterpieces. It is in those moments when I spontaneously praise God. It is those moments I ask you to look for this week.

Pollyanna looked for those bright clouds. As she told Rev. Ford in the movie, there are 800 happy texts in the Bible … texts of joy or gladness. “If God told us 800 times to be glad and rejoice,” she said, “He must have wanted us to do it.” Rev. Ford went to the pulpit the next day and corrected the young girl. There are 826 passages, he said, intending to dwell on one each week for the … well, it equates to the next 16 years or so.

I’ll take Rev. Ford’s word for it. Suffice it to say, there are plenty of opportunities from Scripture to draw from, all pointing towards joy, praise and gladness. All we have to do is take our cue from the source of our authority.

Praise God.

THOUGHT TO REMEMBER: The fault finder will find faults, even in Paradise. — Henry David Thoreau

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Keep Praying … He’s Listening

As we build this community prayer platform, we ask the Lord to listen to our petitions with full confidence they not only are heard but acted upon by God according to His holy will. These requests are on my prayer list and I hope you consider putting them on yours as you place your petitions before the Lord Sunday.

Let’s remember to approach the throne room and respond with faith and not fear, knowing the promises of God and His mighty hand will hold us through any situation! Sometimes, all it takes is just one prayer to change everything. Something extraordinary happens when two or more agree together in prayer.

What is one of the most important things we should do as Christians? Praying at all times in the Spirit, with all prayer and supplication. To that end, keep alert with all perseverance, making supplication for all the saints (Ephesians 6:18).

I will lead this week’s charge. Lord, may the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be pleasing in Your sight  as I take the pulpit tomorrow at Howland (ME) United Methodist Church.

Prayers go out to the people of the Bahamas as they literally rebuild their island and for all who were affected by Hurricane Dorian.

Mark is stable after surgery earlier this week for triple bypass with three arteries blocked, including an occluded aorta.. He has been transferred from CVICU to a regular room and is off all IVs and doing more PT. Praise God. The miracle continues.

Donna’s  father-in-law is in a Cleveland hospital with many life-threatening complications from a routine procedure. Pray for mother-in-law Loretta and Donna’s husband James as they have conversations, make decisions, and imagine scenarios none of us ever want to conceive. Please lift them up … prayers for healing and peace.

Nel’s husband has been put on the ventilator again. He can’t breathe.

Bettina is facing a series of operations that will sideline her for six weeks.

Jeff’s wife will be making the toughest decision of her life as she take him off life support as soon as his family arrives.

Carol is battling stage 4 cancer.

Aamir is having very bad lower back pain that goes into both thighs. After X-ray, the doctor said it is a nerve problem. Need your prayers.

Kate was born with a bad kidney and is expecting her first child (a little girl). She is going to be induced Tuesday. Prayers the Lord watches over both mother and child.

Andrew continues to stare down death. He can see the other side of the Jordan through his pain and could use all the prayers that can be mustered.

There were a host of unspoken prayer requests and we heard of a number of deaths this week. Prayers for their families as they go through this earthly trial. We grieve … heaven rejoices.

We come to You, Lord, because prayer is the least yet the greatest thing we can do for each other. When two or more are gathered in Your name, we confidently know You are with us. What better company can we have? You reign and we trust You! We may be broken and battered but know You heal and quiet the soul. You are the source for all that happens in our lives. We thank You for the progress being made. We thank You for the many blessings we have received this week — some we unfortunately didn’t notice. Nonetheless, those blessings are ever-present in our lives. We thank You for healing. We thank You for slowing us down. We thank You for providing us our daily needs — no more and no less. We thank You for being with us, listening to us, walking with us on this journey. We thank You for the support of our family and friends … for seeing the extraordinary in the ordinary — sunrises, sunsets, flowers, kids laughing, adventures, good news amid the bad news. We also know we can come to You with our concerns and they will be heard. Through Christ all things are possible. We lift up those family members and friends who are battling various physical, emotional, financial, career or spiritual issues and ask not for Your guidance and healing (although that would be welcomed) but to keep reminding us we are not alone in our battles. Specifically we lift up Joe, the people of the Bahamas, Mark, Donna’s father-in-law, Nel’s husband, Bettina, Jeff’s wife, Carol, Aamir, Kate, Andrew and all those needing Your healing touch. We pray for the families of all those You have called home. We grieve … You celebrate. We pray for obedience to Your Will so Your “Son” Light shines through us through the power of the Spirit. And we come to You through the confidence of the words taught by Your Son Jesus.  In Jesus’ Name, Amen.

Keep your joys and concerns coming. They have been and will be included during my prayer time and I trust they will be on your lips as well as you approach the altar. All it takes is a couple of keystrokes under the “Contact Me” button on the top bar {or to the right if you’re not a follower yet}. I hope it becomes your best friend as you navigate around the site so we can all be viable prayer warriors. You can also comment or reach me at wisdomfromafather@gmail.com.

THOUGHT TO REMEMBER: Prayer is not a “spare wheel” you pull out when in trouble, but it is a “steering wheel” that directs the right path throughout.

 

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Five Minute Friday — Testimony

Happy Five Minute Friday time.

The assignment this week was, quite frankly, challenging. The FMF prompt was TESTIMONY, which should be easy peasy. But my mind kept wandering off in different directions {that’s why I call them free range thoughts} and trying to herd them into a coherent five minutes was quite a challenge.

I wonder if my fellow writers at Kate’s place on Facebook at fiveminutefriday had the same challenge. After this post, I’ll take a peek at the offerings from my writing soulmates. It’s always exciting — and often informative — to see how my fellow FMF friends develop their thoughts in a variety of different genres.

I’ve been sharing snippets taken from Five Minute Friday: A Collection of Stories Written in Five Minutes Flat. They are a testimony of the value of the exercise. This week, I’ll share some perspective from Sarah who I hope inspires you to check us out.

“So many times, since I stumbled across Five Minute Friday, I have been blessed and encouraged by it. Not only in my own blogging but also in the community of bloggers that   participate. I love how each word prompt can go to so different a place in each person’s heart and mind! Though it’s been a while since I had time to participate, now that life is slowing down a little, one of the things that I am most looking forward to is getting back into Five Minute Friday.”

If you get a chance, stop by. Or, better yet, try your hand at focused, unscripted writing for just five minutes. And share it on Kate’s website.

But for now, the timer is set for five minutes, so let’s see what kind of a herdsman I am. Lets GO …

Testimony. Its not a word I use too much. I find it pretentious … or at least self-serving.

That doesn’t mean I don’t have a testimony, especially when it comes to publicly recounting my religious conversion or experiences. But I would rather just talk about and write about my experiences, not so much the burning bush moment, but my every day living of the gospel.

To me, testimony is one of those “church” words that immediately shuts down conversation for far too many. I mean, “Do you want to hear my testimony?” is a turn off for those not versed in the church and its lingo. It’s a buzz word.

Instead, I want to talk to people one on one {or through mass media like posts and social media} focusing more on the effect of my conversion rather than the cause. The cause — hopefully — comes through in those conversations allowing me to engage with non believers as comfortably as believers.

My testimony is my life and, hopefully, my legacy. I know Jesus as a special … STOP

Friend and I want to share how that friendship frames my actions.

Am I always successful?

No. In fact, my life is a series of friendship failures but the message remains the same, I know I can go on, take the next steps in faith, try to be a better friend. My Friend doesn’t look at my failures. He  looks at me, warts and all, and yet loves me nonetheless. He took a bullet for me — actually suffered a horrid crucifixion for me. Because He loves me. Because He loves you. And He promised when He walked  out of that tomb He would accompany me along all my steps. Because He lives, I can face today and tomorrow and the next day. He made the same promise to all who call Him Friend.

That’s my story and I’m sticking to it. You can call it a testimony if you want. I just know I am not perfect, but I also know I am forgiven and I am more than happy to share my Friend. In fact, the more the merrier.

THOUGHT TO REMEMBER: The world is moved along, not only by the mighty shovel of its heroes, but also by the aggregate of the tiny pushes of each honest worker. — Helen Keller

 

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Hi Guys …

I went to a meeting the other day. As I entered the doorway, I blurted out, “Good morning guys.”

One of my early thirties female colleagues shot back, “Do we look like guys?” as she waved her hand highlighting the all female group at the table.

I retreated and said, “Good morning girls.”

I received an icy stare accompanying the just as icy response, “Do we look like girls?”

So I revised the comment. “Ladies?” No response but a raised eyebrow, so, although in my mind it didn’t flow well, I offered “Women?” No change in expression from my colleague.

Finally, I sat down, put my notebook on the table and said, “Let’s start this  over. Good morning all.”

I bring this up because we baby boomers are at a complete loss when it comes to gender inclusive language and gender identification. In our day, there were two genders … period. Roles were well defined. It was still a patriarchal world, although the seismic shift was acomin’. Men and boys were, well, men and boys salivating at the thought of a wardrobe malfunction and constantly in search for a quest. Women and girls were, women and girls demurely commanding the rules of engagement. Growing up, most families I knew had a stay at home mom and working dad.

That all started to change in the 60s and the demographics today show more and more one parent households, often single mothers trying to balance family and work. As the morality in the country changed, one of those moral compass points has been gender blending.

In full disclosure, I appreciate everyone for their contributions. I don’t look at gender as a qualifying or disqualifying attribute. I told my wife and daughters constantly they could do whatever they wanted to live a fulfilling life. There were no barriers if they were willing to work hard toward their goals.

I also realize life way back then was not all lollipops and unicorns. A lot of unspeakable things have happened over the past 60 years, especially for girls and women. The level of exploitation is horrific as we — despite the feminist movement — allow girls/women to once again be considered chattel.

It’s not just the male/female dynamic. A relatively new visit to gender identity has clouded issues even more. More and more we are seeing more than two boxes under gender. Call it whatever you want, but in my still sexist 60s mind there still remains just two genders, no matter how you try to mix and match them. The alternate lifestyles now are a cornucopia of letters, many of which I still can’t figure out.

To each his/her/it’s own, but I do take umbrage with the depiction of alternate lifestyles in the arts and media. Often, the — I don’t even know how to identify characters — token gay (?) is a caricature and alternate lifestyles are presented as the norm, rather than the minority it is.

Okay. Off the soap box. Back to the original thought about navigating the world of the sexes. Before being distracted, I was talking about approaching thinking and writing from two biologically different frames of reference.

Ironically, I — a male — chose to write my novella Heaven Shining Through and subsequent novel My Name Is Sam … and Heaven Is Still Shining Through through the eyes and mind of a woman. While for the most part, I think I captured the emotions through the story lines, I was reminded a few times I might have missed the mark. One reviewer, who liked Heaven Shining Through, commented she knew right away it was written by a male. As she explained, the sentence structure was a giveaway. “[E]verything was Point A to Point B to Point C and etc., with minimal breaks. Most (but not all, I will be the first to admit) women don’t have this structure, especially with the more emotional side of things. Even with it being a faster-paced story, there would be some side stops with emotion.” She added, a lot of the sentences were about the same length.”Women tend to have varying lengths of thoughts in their head, which usually translates into different sentence lengths.”

Another asked the question, “What is with all the descriptions of Sam’s outfits?”

And another opined, “For me, the excessive weepiness of your main character blatantly revealed the author’s gender. Barring some sort of hormonal imbalance, this is an unusual trait for women.”

It’s ironic because those reviewers — all women — missed my central point: the strength Samantha had, her inner strength, her resilience, her independence. I’ll concede Sam does a wee bit of weeping — an observation after living with my wife for over 40 years — but they were at seminal moments in the story … during arguments with her mother … when she broke up with her boyfriend … when they got back together and accepted his marriage proposal … when he died … during her grief stage … at other funerals and life events.

And I described Sam’s outfits in detail for a couple of reasons. First of all I had to research the fashion of the day. Second, I can’t count the number of times I ended up in the doghouse because I wasn’t observant to Karen’s new clothes or doo. Third, I’m still a man looking for that wardrobe malfunction.

Writing across genders is difficult. Navigating today’s quest for gender neutrality is difficult {I’d love to hear some female perspectives on this}. Or, as Karen would say, “Right brain, left brain.”

I say, God bless the differences.

THOUGHT TO REMEMBER: I find there are three stages in every great work of God: first it’s impossible, then it’s difficult, then it’s done. — Hudson Taylor

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Midweek Mirth

One of the misconceptions about being a Christian is non-Christians think we don’t know how to have fun or have a sense of humor. Trust me, if the Big Guy can have a sense of humor when it comes to dealing with us mere mortals, so can we.

The difference for Christians is we don’t have to debase ourselves or others to generate a smile. Laughter at life or ourselves is a gift from God.

So, let’s smile a little!

Think About It

When’s the best time to plant a tree?

Fifteen years ago.

When’s the second-best time?

Today.

… and now for the bonus, appropriate for the back to school season.

School Daze

Little Jimmy had reached school age. His mom worked hard to make him enthusiastic about the idea. She bought him lots of new clothes, told him of the new friends he’d meet, and so on. The first day of school, he eagerly set off. When he came back home he had a lot of glowing reports about school!

Next morning his mom woke him up saying, “Jimmy, it’s time to get ready for school.”

Jimmy stared at her incredulously and said, “What? Again?”

THOUGHT TO REMEMBER: A little laughter, a little song,

A little teardrop

When things go wrong,

A little calm

And a little strife,

A little loving —

And that is life.

          — Helen Steiner Rice

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We Are the Weather: Saving the Planet Begins at Breakfast

I received an advance an advance reading copy of We Are the Weather: Saving the Planet Begins at Breakfast through Goodreads’ Giveaways, and my review is based on an uncorrected proof. We Are the Weather will be available in bookstores Sept. 17.

I  was attracted to We Are the Weather: Saving the Planet Begins at Breakfast by Jonathan Safran Foer because of its title, although I am by far not a tree hugging environmentalist, subscribe to the gloom and doom of climate change, or espouse the vegan lifestyle. I didn’t — although I should have — expect the latter emphasis. After all one of Foer’s previous books was titled Eating Animals.

I expected going in for this to be a discussion about climate change. And it is, just not in the way I expected. I was mentally prepared to “argue” his claims.

Of course, there is no argument. Something is going on and we humans play a role. Where I draw the line generally is how minuscule our individual footprint is in a global world. That’s not to say we shouldn’t each do our part at conservation, but to expect every American to go green {and vegan} to solve worldwide problems is just ludicrous. The irony is Foer agrees with that premise.

I digress. Back to the book. I found Foer’s presentation … interesting. He didn’t preach his beliefs, but rather offered anecdotal phraseology to convey his sometime dark thoughts. I found it sometimes rambling, sometimes repetitive, sometimes self-serving. Yet it {mostly} held my interest.

The point of the book is Foer’s call to action. He professes as a society we need to eat fewer animal products because factory farms are a leading cause of climate change. All the other small things we do — recycle, compost, drive hybrid cars, etc. — barely make a dent. We should still do them, but they are just so small compared to factory farms. I honestly wasn’t expecting that factory farm angle.

I was fascinated by some of the anecdotes Foer used.  I found many of them informative and interesting. Some of them were haunting, though — especially when he described first person and family events. I also found his affection for suicide and death disturbing.

I wouldn’t call this a must read. In fact, I wouldn’t even recommend it for a strict environmentalist looking for affirmation. While presented differently — it took an awful lot of pages to get to the point, about 90 — this book primarily addresses two points: animal agriculture causes climate change and animal agriculture is a/the leading cause of climate change.

I give the book a three star — average — rating. It was far from a horrible read, but it was a tedious read. If you’re into the vegan lifestyle, you might rate it higher. If you like bacon and eggs and cream in your coffee for breakfast, you might rate it lower.

We Are the Weather: Saving the Planet Begins at Breakfast

Jonathan Safran Foer

Paperback, Amazon

Farrar, Straus and Giroux (Sept. 17, 2019)

English

ISBN-10: 0374909547

ISBN-13: 978-0374909543

THOUGHT TO REMEMBER: When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change – Wayne Dyer

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